More than just money

The Philippine Star - - BUSINESS -

Dal­las Wil­lard is an aca­demi­cian and is highly re­spected in the academe. He was voted as one of Amer­ica’s most in­flu­en­tial peo­ple. I read his books and lis­ten to his in­ter­views and I was sad­dened when he passed away last year.

Dal­las Wil­lard spoke with a slow de­lib­er­ate mo­not­o­nous tone like most learned aca­demi­cians do, but what he said packed pow­er­ful con­tent that is ob­vi­ously a re­sult of care­ful think­ing and eval­u­ated per­sonal ex­pe­ri­ence.

When a fa­mous per­son asked him what he should do to achieve suc­cess and true hap­pi­ness, the learned philoso­pher said, “You have to ruth­lessly elim­i­nate hurry in your life.”

A very sim­ple line yet packs a wal­lop­ing punch.

To hurry is now the norm and has caused many peo­ple to get sick, stress out and ac­quire a dis­ease.

Is it just me or are you also in the game of hur­ry­ing all the time, rush­ing through the day, liv­ing in par­tial at­ten­tion and al­ways stressed to find that time was not enough with a thou­sand and one hun­dred things you still have to do? There are goals to achieve, dreams to ful­fill and in the process may make us very un­happy.

There is a great dif­fer­ence be­tween at­tain­ing your goals and be­ing happy. Some peo­ple have achieved their goals and they are far from be­ing happy. Oth­ers just get want to be “happy” and plunge their lives into an un­end­ing cy­cle of mis­eries not only for them­selves, but also for the peo­ple who love them.

When you look at a suc­cess­ful per­son, you may see that per­son liv­ing in a vis­i­ble, pu­bic and ob­vi­ous world of glamor, but his or her in­side world may be tu­mul­tuous, chaotic, and dark and lit­er­ally fall­ing apart. Think Patch Adams -- ac­tor Robin Wil­liams. It may also that the outer world of a per­son seems to be tu­mul­tuous, chaotic and dark, but his in­side world is glow­ing and the per­son is grow­ing in terms of char­ac­ter. In the end, the outer world fades and we are left with the in­ner world. It is what we will take with us.

Dal­las Wil­lard said: “I am an un­ceas­ing spir­i­tual be­ing with an eter­nal des­tiny in God’s glo­ri­ous uni­verse.” A few months be­fore he passed, he told his good friend John Ort­berg, “You know John, I think it will be a while be­fore I know I am dead!”

What a won­der­ful way to live. The abil­ity to elim­i­nate hurry, re­al­iz­ing that there is an eter­nal life be­yond the phys­i­cal, and liv­ing life to the full. I think it will be an ex­ag­ger­a­tion for me to say that Dal­las Wil­lard knew the happy life.

A re­search group af­fil­i­ated with the Uni­ver­sity of Chicago re­cently listed the 10 least happy jobs in the world and the 10 hap­pi­est jobs in the world. What they found was that the 10 least happy jobs were more fi­nan­cially lu­cra­tive and of­fer higher sta­tus than the hap­pi­est jobs. The dif­fer­ence? Peo­ple in the hap­pi­est jobs have a higher sense of mean­ing. Less money less sta­tus but a higher sense of mean­ing. The main thing you bring home from your work is not a pay­check. The main thing you bring home from your work is your soul. We are made to cre­ate value and work should be a soul is­sue.

A per­son is es­sen­tially a col­lec­tion of con­scious ex­pe­ri­ences far more than just bod­ies and ap­petites. We are our ex­pe­ri­ences, that is why we trea­sure the good ones. We will al­ways ap­pre­ci­ate a beau­ti­ful sun­set. We re­mem­ber a fa­vorite scene in a movie. We re­live that first kiss. Our hearts are moved by an in­spir­ing movie. We rel­ish a dra­matic vic­tory. These con­scious ex­pe­ri­ences of life are soul is­sues that science finds hard to ex­plain.

Busi­ness is adding value to the mar­ket­place. Work should be a soul is­sue and a plat­form for build­ing char­ac­ter.

I am still work­ing on ruth­lessly elim­i­nat­ing hurry in my life and it is not easy, but I am a work in progress. Live. Love. Laugh and Pray. This is not a movie ti­tle, but a real ef­fec­tive way of at­tain­ing hap­pi­ness. And we all must achieve this.

(Best­selling au­thor and pro­duc­tiv­ity ex­pert Todd Henry, Vic Gregorio, Fran­cis Kong, and suc­cess­ful lead­ers will talk about Pas­sion, Pro­duc­tiv­ity and Pur­pose in a whole day con­fer­ence en­ti­tled: “Live Full. Die Empty – Un­leash­ing Your Best Work Ev­ery Day” on Nov. 9 at Samsung Hall, SM Aura. For reg­is­tra­tion or in­quiries con­tact April at +63928-559-1798)

FRAN­CIS J. KONG

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