“SHE PASSED OUT DRUNK IN MY BRIDAL SUITE… ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT.”

“Hannah* was a real piece of work even though we’ve been close friends for a good 15 years. The rst signs of bad behaviour emerged during my bachelorette party, when she started to bad-mouth my ance, Peter*, over brunch.

She went on and on about how he was an ‘insecure soul’, a ‘party pooper’, and too ‘boring’ for me. To my horror, a few of the other bridesmaids chimed in and talked about how my ex-beau was more accomplished! I sat there lost for words, smiling feebly and shifting around awkwardly in my seat. The entire table went silent when Hannah shamelessly ended her rant with the words no bride-to-be should ever hear: ‘I think you deserve better.’

Things took a turn for the worse when we hit the clubs that evening. Hannah and a few of the other girls kept egging me on to approach drunk men outside the clubs to perform risque dares like ‘give him your soiled underwear’ and ‘jump into a cab with a stranger’. At certain points, it felt more like a circus act than a bachelorette party.

I assumed things would improve after the hen night, but Hannah only became more difficult. Two days before the wedding, she wanted to ‘un-bridesmaid’ herself because she’d had a tiff with her boyfriend and wanted to ‘be alone for a couple of days’. When Peter called her to persuade her otherwise, she lashed out at him, saying I was settling by marrying him. I was furious but didn’t want things to get any worse, so I kept mum.

To my surprise, Hannah turned up on the day itself and carried herself with poise… until dinner, when wine was served. Friends at her table vaguely recall her having one glass of wine with each course, which explains why she stumbled out of the banquet looking like she had just emerged from a club.

By the end of the night, Hannah had passed out on the couch… in my bridal suite. Thankfully, my bridesmaids had booked a room for the night and offered to move her over, so we didn’t have to spend our rst night as husband and wife with Hannah in the same room.

I didn’t confront her over what happened because I didn’t want to deal with post-wedding drama. It’s been a year and we’re still friends, but I’m glad I’m only getting married once because I cannot imagine reliving that episode.” – Tiffany*, 29, sales manager

WHY WOULD SHE DO THAT?!

Anoushka says… “Hannah could be an overly protective girlfriend who experienced difficulty in bonding with Tiffany’s hubby-tobe due to a personality clash or other reasons. She might have witnessed Tiffany get hurt in the past and may have felt concerned for her friend in her present relationship. Ultimately, it’s up to Tiffany to decide where and when to draw the line. If she feels Hannah indeed crossed the line, but didn’t want to confront the issue on her big day, that’s ne.

Now that the excitement from the wedding has died down, Tiffany can invite Hannah out for coffee and have a heart-to-heart chat about her unruly behaviour. Tiffany should start the conversation by pinpointing how Hannah’s actions affected her during the wedding and the reasons behind her behaviour. From there, the two can clear up misunderstandings Hannah might have about Peter or her friendship with Tiffany.”