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My ance wants his mother to move in with us when we get married. Problem is, she’s very traditional and believes I should do the cooking and cleaning, on top of having a full-time job. Even worse, my ance doesn’t see anything wrong with that. How do I communicate to them both that it should be 50-50? Sit them down to a movie marathon of feminist hits, starting with Thelma & Louise and ending with Kill Bill. They’ll nd very few dishes are washed by women in those lms. Or be an alpha about it. Tell your mother-inlaw it’s great you’ll all be living together, but your husband not helping out isn’t an option. It’s your home too. I’ve been married for ve years and have a toddler. I’ve started feeling that I’m no longer as close to my husband. There doesn’t seem to be a spark and we barely communicate. I’ve even started to question if I’m still in love with him. How do I know if it’s because we’ve just been busy juggling work and a kid, or if it’s something more to worry about? You’ve had a child, so it’s normal for your feelings for each other to get pulled back a bit. That’s your genes telling you that you can stop mating. It’s now up to you to circumvent your genetic programming and put some spark back into the relationship. Make time for both of you to be alone, and be who you were before your kid came along. Hopefully, that brings the electricity back. A close friend recently confessed his feelings for me, even though he has a girlfriend. I’m pretty shocked because I didn’t see that coming. Why does he think it’s necessary to bring it up now, and what should I tell him if I don’t want to risk our friendship? There’s really nothing to say that will absolutely save this friendship. Just be honest with him about how you feel, and leave it to him to decide if he can stay friends with you. But don’t be surprised if things are awkward afterwards. Some people aren’t meant to be friends unless they’re together.