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The telling signs that you’re his fall­back girl and noth­ing more.

It’s a new term for guys who al­ready have a main squeeze (although things haven’t hit the boyfriend-girl­friend zone), but are keep­ing their options open with other women. It can range from just irt­ing on dat­ing apps to go­ing out on ac­tual dates. But isn’t that cheat­ing on their main girl? Not ac­cord­ing to the men we spoke to. Be­cause the re­la­tion­ship sta­tus isn’t of­fi­cial, it’s still a grey area. “Even in long-term re­la­tion­ships, you can’t al­ways be cer­tain that it won’t fall through. So what more with a edgling re­la­tion­ship?” asks Arthur*, 30. Why cush­ion? Why not seal the deal? “Well, some­times it’s not up to us,” says Michael*, 28. He ex­plains that if a woman says she’d rather take the time to get to know him bet­ter, this sig­nals that there’s a chance of fail­ure. Joshua*, 30, likens cush­ion­ing to “di­ver­si­fy­ing your port­fo­lio: it’s not smart to put all your money into just one great in­vest­ment”. Are guys who cush­ion even se­ri­ous about get­ting into a re­la­tion­ship? Not re­ally, says Arthur. There might be one girl you’re more into, “but as a sin­gle guy who doesn’t want to be tied down, I would con­tinue dat­ing oth­ers for va­ri­ety”, he adds. If you’re doubt­ful, ask your man to come clean about how many women he’s send­ing irty one-lin­ers to.

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