Fo­cus on your­work­out . . . boys

Daily Dispatch - - Dwae -

THOUGHT your gym be­hav­iour was cer­tain to at­tract the right kind of fe­male at­ten­tion? Think again.

Ac­cord­ing to fit­ness and life­style ex­pert, Re­becca Fred­er­icks, men of all types fall into the same trap of dis­play­ing stereo­typ­i­cal “al­pha” be­hav­iour when they hit the gym – and they all only serve to de­tract from a man’s al­lure.

Fred­er­icks pulls no punches in the fol­low­ing list of mis­takes men com­monly make: even more than we are al­ready, and shows us just how manly you re­ally are. Or not. For most women, the os­ten­ta­tious man grunt is one of the most an­noy­ing things men do in gyms. It’s an­noy­ing, dis­tract­ing, and largely un­nec­es­sary.

Breathe, by all means – we un­der­stand that. Us­ing your breath to help you lift is a highly ef­fec­tive tool. But don’t grunt, moan, or gen­er­ally let any kind of loud noise out of your mouth.

Straight straight. Up­per cut up­per cut. We’ve all seen The Fighter. We’ve prob­a­bly all been to a box­ing class or two. So, safe to say, we know the drill. But you’re not at a box­ing class now. Prac­tis­ing your moves in front of the mir­ror in the weights sec­tion just looks a bit . . . naff. More knock-back than knock­out.

You know that thing where you lift your top a lit­tle to show your six­pack to “your­self” in the gym mir­ror? Or that adorable bi­cep or tri­cep tense that you per­form just to see how much your mus­cles have de­vel­oped? Well, don’t fool your­self: we know what you’re do­ing. And it’s kind of sad. Pulling silly poses in front of the mir­ror will only ruin any al­lure you may have.

We’re not be­ing mean here. You train hard, you’re at the gym do­ing your thing, and you prob­a­bly do have a mighty fine body. But – and here’s the key bit – you don’t need to act like a pea­cock for us to no­tice it. We have eyes and a sex drive. If we think you look good, we will prob­a­bly check you out on the sly. Pulling silly poses in front of the mir­ror will only ruin any al­lure you may have.

Weight ar­eas are gen­er­ally a lit­tle squashed. Benches, bar­bells, dumb bells, ca­ble ma­chines et cetera et cetera. Mix all that to­gether with about 20 peo­ple and you’ve got your­self a hot, cramped, and sweaty mess. And we all know, girls just love a hot, cramped, sticky and sweaty mess to work out in.

So, when you don’t bother to put your weights back, leave your towel, your phone, your keys, your wal­let, some used sweat tis­sue and a bar­bell ly­ing in a lovely cir­cle with a ra­dius of 2m around you, it doesn’t go down too well with us.

This fab­u­lous habit gen­er­ally goes hand-in-hand with the loud grunt­ing, and it’s no less an­noy­ing. It makes one hell of a clat­ter – but more to the point it’s also pretty dan­ger­ous.

There have been many times when I’ve had to launch my­self out of the way of a stray, fly­ing dumb­bell, much to the amuse­ment of the men around me. Hah Hah. Put the weights down on the floor safely and save your­self a po­ten­tial law­suit.

Fun­nily enough, some of us ac­tu­ally know what we’re do­ing in the gym – or are even per­sonal train­ers our­selves.

When we see a man con­tort­ing his en­tire body try­ing to lift, pull or push a weight that is just too heavy for him, it’s not sexy, cool, manly or tough – it’s just a bit pa­thetic. It makes you look weaker than you prob­a­bly are, and just a lit­tle bit silly.

Yes, this does hap­pen; no, it’s not nice. Just be­cause we may be wear­ing tight cloth­ing that strains rather as we squat, dead­lift and lunge, you do not have free li­cence to com­ment upon it. You may see this as gym­style flirt­ing, but we see it as rude­ness. Stop.

This is one of my favourites. I go to the gym, on my own, a lot. I weight train ev­ery day and I’m a qual­i­fied per­sonal trainer, so I do know what I’m do­ing. But this does not stop men, al­most daily, com­ing up and try­ing to cor­rect my form or sug­gest­ing other ex­er­cises I “should” do to “re­ally work that mus­cle”.

Guys, I beg you, un­less the lady in ques­tion is do­ing some­thing that may cause her an in­jury (think squat­ting or dead­lift­ing in­cor­rectly), or specif­i­cally asks your ad­vice, leave her alone. — © Tele­graph Me­dia Group Lim­ited [2017]

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