Drop ‘wife material’ facade

Having marriage problems? It could be because you have created a façade that is really difficult to maintain‚ says Isibaya actress Ayanda Borotho.

Ayanda is like the modern-day Dr Phil, and took to Instagram this week to drop her latest pearls of wisdom. This time she addressed women and the roles they take when getting married.

She said the biggest mistakes women make when looking to settle down is wearing the “wife material facade”.

“We mould ourselves into a society box that defines what a ‘wife material’ woman is. Then he marries the wife you present before him. Meanwhile‚ this is not all of who you are, and sometimes none of it is all you.”

She said pretending only led to conflict down the road.

“These are the choices we have had to make for centuries. To be everything else but ourselves just so we can fit the shoe left for us to wear. No more.”