What you need to know before a threesome

“The more you think it through and discuss it before the act, the more likely everyone will have a good time,” says Dr Emily Morse, sex expert and host of the podcast Sex With Emily. Here are four questions she wants you to ask:

1Why do I want this? You should only have a threesome if it’s something that genuinely excites you. You may find you like imagining a threesome, but clam up when it comes to planning one.

2How will we communicate if one of us is done? In the moment, it can be hard to suss out feelings. Having a code word or phrase that ends the action ensures no misunderstandings.

3What’s your status/sexual health history? Making sure everyone is safe (and protection is used) is a must.

4What are you most looking forward to/are most nervous about? Talking through what you like – and what you don’t – before any clothes come off ensures that everyone is on the same page.