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Scam­mers in­sert scan­ning de­vices into ATMS, or you may be dis­tracted by some­one who con­vinces you that your card has been swal­lowed. If any­thing like this hap­pens, go into the bank and get help. If you lose your card, no­tify the bank straight away.

6ReadQ“I’m strug­gling to set bound­aries with my mother-in-law. She shows up at the house unan­nounced and is very opin­ion­ated. I don’t want to hurt her feel­ings or my part­ner’s, but what do I do?” Your mother-in-law is in­vad­ing your pri­vacy and mak­ing you feel un­com­fort­able, but you are right: it’s im­por­tant to han­dle this sit­u­a­tion sen­si­tively to keep ev­ery­one happy.

First en­sure that your part­ner is aware of your feel­ings. Ex­plain the is­sues in full and make sure that they un­der­stand your po­si­tion be­fore tak­ing any ac­tion.

When you are ready to tackle the prob­lem, avoid a con­fronta­tion by cour­te­ously giv­ing your moth­erin-law spe­cific days when she’s wel­come to visit. This will stop the sur­prise ap­pear­ances and she will feel ap­pre­ci­ated be­cause you’ve set time aside specif­i­cally for her.

When she ex­presses strong opin­ions, stand your ground – po­litely! Say some­thing like, “Thank you. I’ll take your ad­vice into con­sid­er­a­tion, but I’m go­ing to do it this way.”

As with any re­la­tion­ship, a healthy con­nec­tion with your in-laws takes some give-and-take and good­will.

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