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Scammers insert scanning devices into ATMS, or you may be distracted by someone who convinces you that your card has been swallowed. If anything like this happens, go into the bank and get help. If you lose your card, notify the bank straight away.

6ReadQ“I’m struggling to set boundaries with my mother-in-law. She shows up at the house unannounced and is very opinionated. I don’t want to hurt her feelings or my partner’s, but what do I do?” Your mother-in-law is invading your privacy and making you feel uncomfortable, but you are right: it’s important to handle this situation sensitively to keep everyone happy.

First ensure that your partner is aware of your feelings. Explain the issues in full and make sure that they understand your position before taking any action.

When you are ready to tackle the problem, avoid a confrontation by courteously giving your motherin-law specific days when she’s welcome to visit. This will stop the surprise appearances and she will feel appreciated because you’ve set time aside specifically for her.

When she expresses strong opinions, stand your ground – politely! Say something like, “Thank you. I’ll take your advice into consideration, but I’m going to do it this way.”

As with any relationship, a healthy connection with your in-laws takes some give-and-take and goodwill.