Hey, it’s OK... You
… If the idea of being a bridesmaid fills you with dread. Just call me ‘The Bride’s Unpaid Therapist’ for the next eight months.
… To only iron the part of your shirt that’s on show. #winning.
… To think about the ’90s when someone says, “Ten years ago”… and not 2006. Yes, that’s right. 2006.
… If your desk drawer resembles the sweet shelves by the tills at Pick n Pay. … If the only Shakespeare you can quote comes from obsessively watching Leo Dicaprio in Romeo + Juliet.
… To wear your bikini bottoms when you’ve run out of underwear. … To stay indoors watching TV on a hot weekend. There’s no law that says you have to be at the beach. … To spend R80 on a cocktail, but feel totally cheated if you have to pay more than R20 for a bag of pasta. … If you have rice pudding for supper. It is rice, after all. Um, not OK… … To skip the sunscreen this summer. Skin cancer is a big deal, people!
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We all mess up. We say stupid things. We make huge mistakes. In the lighter scenarios, one option is to throw away the words and apologise through actions: like a surprise meal, a love note slipped inside your partner’s gym bag or even special sex. Just make sure what’s important to you is also important to them. Then, work on handling whatever comes next… one glorious mistake at a time.
Alyssa is a magazine writer and the author of Apron Anxiety: My Messy Affairs In and Out of the Kitchen (Random House; R276).
Sometimes you try, but your friends just aren’t crazy about your beloved. Or vice versa. It’s a tough pill to swallow if your BFF doesn’t like the person you’re with, but here’s the thing: their point of view matters… but not that much. And not as much as yours does.
The connection you share with your love (or potential love) is ultimately more important. Yes, hopefully you’ll appreciate each other’s crews, and you’ll take their feelings into consideration. But the key is liking each other in a way no one can come between.