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Glamour (South Africa) - - You You -

… If the idea of be­ing a brides­maid fills you with dread. Just call me ‘The Bride’s Un­paid Ther­a­pist’ for the next eight months.

… To only iron the part of your shirt that’s on show. #win­ning.

… To think about the ’90s when some­one says, “Ten years ago”… and not 2006. Yes, that’s right. 2006.

… If your desk drawer re­sem­bles the sweet shelves by the tills at Pick n Pay. … If the only Shake­speare you can quote comes from ob­ses­sively watch­ing Leo Dicaprio in Romeo + Juliet.

… To wear your bikini bot­toms when you’ve run out of un­der­wear. … To stay in­doors watch­ing TV on a hot week­end. There’s no law that says you have to be at the beach. … To spend R80 on a cock­tail, but feel to­tally cheated if you have to pay more than R20 for a bag of pasta. … If you have rice pud­ding for sup­per. It is rice, af­ter all. Um, not OK… … To skip the sun­screen this sum­mer. Skin can­cer is a big deal, peo­ple!

Buy an air­port lounge pass from as lit­tle as R1 400 per year from pri­or­i­ty­pass.com to en­joy com­pli­men­tary treats such as food, drinks or spa treat­ments. Love wear­ing low-back looks? Then do these moves six times a week.

We all mess up. We say stupid things. We make huge mis­takes. In the lighter sce­nar­ios, one op­tion is to throw away the words and apol­o­gise through ac­tions: like a sur­prise meal, a love note slipped in­side your part­ner’s gym bag or even spe­cial sex. Just make sure what’s im­por­tant to you is also im­por­tant to them. Then, work on han­dling what­ever comes next… one glo­ri­ous mis­take at a time.

Alyssa is a mag­a­zine writer and the au­thor of Apron Anxiety: My Messy Af­fairs In and Out of the Kitchen (Ran­dom House; R276).

Some­times you try, but your friends just aren’t crazy about your beloved. Or vice versa. It’s a tough pill to swal­low if your BFF doesn’t like the per­son you’re with, but here’s the thing: their point of view mat­ters… but not that much. And not as much as yours does.

The con­nec­tion you share with your love (or po­ten­tial love) is ul­ti­mately more im­por­tant. Yes, hope­fully you’ll ap­pre­ci­ate each other’s crews, and you’ll take their feel­ings into con­sid­er­a­tion. But the key is lik­ing each other in a way no one can come be­tween.

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