Sex Not-so one-night stands Life Our coach is right here!

When ‘no strings at­tached’ turns into true love. Life coach Kirsten Long ad­vises on love, work and more.

Glamour (South Africa) - - All About You -

With sex on tap just a right swipe away, it’s easy to feel like we’re in the mid­dle of a dat­ing apoc­a­lypse (thanks, Tin­der). But all is not lost: re­search shows that 27% of one-night stands lead to suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ships. And while al­co­hol may play a part, these women found that a ca­sual hook-up can turn into more.

“I met Scott in a club. I was, shall we say, ‘ac­cus­tomed’ to one-night stands back then, so af­ter we’d kissed on the dance floor, I said, ‘Are we go­ing back to yours or what?’ He called me the wrong name for the whole taxi ride and back at his place, we had to stop mid-act to throw up. It was aw­ful! The next morn­ing, I left with noth­ing but an in­struc­tion to find him on Face­book. Good thing I did; it’s our four year an­niver­sary soon.” – Aimee, 28 “I was stay­ing in a ho­tel in Aus­tralia one night and met Sam, who was stay­ing there, too. We drank, flirted and ended up in a bunk bed in an empty room. I snuck back to my room, but the next day he came to ask if I wanted to hang out. We ended up trav­el­ling to­gether. And seven and a half years on, we’re mar­ried.” – Mel, 28

“I had just got off a flight and was to­tally jet-lagged, but my friends in­sisted on drag­ging me out for a night on the town. We took the train into the city and I saw a hot guy sit­ting in our car­riage. Buoyed by Dutch courage, I told him he had ‘mys­te­ri­ous eyes’. He laughed, we got talk­ing and he joined us on our night out (then we ended up back at his). The next morn­ing, he made me eggs, and we’ve been in­sep­a­ra­ble ever since.” – Sarah, 26

“On a var­sity night out, I saw Jake – the guy I’d had a crush on all term – and I fi­nally made a move. We ended up back at my res and got down to it. The next day, I woke up at 9am, nicked some caffeine tablets and went to my part-time job, think­ing I’d never hear from him again. But the next evening, the in­ter­com buzzed – it was Jake. And 13 years on, we’re mar­ried with a baby.” – Caro­line, 33

Q“I’ve hooked up with a col­league a few times and now I’m de­vel­op­ing feel­ings for him. What should I do?”

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