Youyouyou Hey, it’s OK…

… To buy a new jumpsuit and then buy the playsuit version of it two weeks later – Cape Town weather is way too unpredictable.

… If you still haven’t mastered the fine art of contouring, and only associate ‘baking’ with the kitchen.

… To miss your pink Motorola ip phone you had back in the day #sassy.

… To read the drinks menu before the food menu. If they don’t do cocktails, then this isn’t the restaurant for you. … If you never message that guy you matched with on Tinder. Sometimes, a girl just wants to know if a guy will swipe right for her.

Chances are, you have long, meaningful conversations with your friends. That’s what they’re there for, right? In fact, research has found that talking things over with trusted confidantes helps build friendships. The one thing to keep in mind: every discussion is different.

I have one friend I talk openly with about my sex life; she doesn’t judge, and I return the favour. My married pals often reflect wisely on whether someone has long-term potential. Either way, take turns listening to each other, but note that it’s best to draw the line at actual therapy. (I got the hint when one friend asked me, “Have you spoken to someone, like a professional, about this?”) too. It might surprise you to see what happens when you open up and let them in – after all, your elders have years of experience from both good and bad relationships.

My mom, for instance, has always been a champion of me sowing my wild oats. “Why be with someone who’s not great when you can have a great life all to yourself?” she once told me. Just be prepared: if you confide in your parents, you have to listen respectfully to their opinions (it’s only fair).

“… I liked someone else” “We’d been together for two years, and Rob was convinced we’d get married, but I wasn’t sure. Then Alex walked into a lecture and I immediately wanted to date him. I realised I wasn’t invested in Rob.” – Sara, 25