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… To buy a new jump­suit and then buy the play­suit ver­sion of it two weeks later – Cape Town weather is way too un­pre­dictable.

… If you still haven’t mas­tered the fine art of con­tour­ing, and only as­so­ciate ‘bak­ing’ with the kitchen.

… To miss your pink Mo­torola ip phone you had back in the day #sassy.

… To read the drinks menu be­fore the food menu. If they don’t do cocktails, then this isn’t the restau­rant for you. … If you never mes­sage that guy you matched with on Tin­der. Some­times, a girl just wants to know if a guy will swipe right for her.

Chances are, you have long, mean­ing­ful con­ver­sa­tions with your friends. That’s what they’re there for, right? In fact, re­search has found that talk­ing things over with trusted con­fi­dantes helps build friend­ships. The one thing to keep in mind: ev­ery dis­cus­sion is dif­fer­ent.

I have one friend I talk openly with about my sex life; she doesn’t judge, and I re­turn the favour. My mar­ried pals of­ten re­flect wisely on whether some­one has long-term po­ten­tial. Ei­ther way, take turns lis­ten­ing to each other, but note that it’s best to draw the line at ac­tual ther­apy. (I got the hint when one friend asked me, “Have you spo­ken to some­one, like a pro­fes­sional, about this?”) too. It might sur­prise you to see what hap­pens when you open up and let them in – af­ter all, your el­ders have years of ex­pe­ri­ence from both good and bad re­la­tion­ships.

My mom, for in­stance, has al­ways been a cham­pion of me sow­ing my wild oats. “Why be with some­one who’s not great when you can have a great life all to your­self?” she once told me. Just be pre­pared: if you con­fide in your par­ents, you have to lis­ten re­spect­fully to their opin­ions (it’s only fair).

“… I liked some­one else” “We’d been to­gether for two years, and Rob was con­vinced we’d get mar­ried, but I wasn’t sure. Then Alex walked into a lec­ture and I im­me­di­ately wanted to date him. I re­alised I wasn’t in­vested in Rob.” – Sara, 25

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