Troye Si­van is the bravest pop star we know

At 21, the singer and Youtube sen­sa­tion is more com­fort­able with him­self than most of our adult friends! Soak up his wis­dom, here.

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i’m just some dumb kid, try­ing to kid my­self that I got my stuff to­gether,” Troye Si­van sings in his song ‘Lost boy’. Sorry, Troye, we’re go­ing to re­spect­fully dis­agree. Since hit­ting the mu­sic scene in 2014, the Joburg-born, Aus­trali­abased singer has been streamed al­most a billion times, toured the world and earned the fandom of Tay­lor Swift and Adele. The best part? He uses his pop­u­lar­ity for good via his Youtube chan­nel, where he high­lights the strug­gles of the LGBTQA com­mu­nity. How does some­one so young get so fear­less? We’ll let him ex­plain the rules he lives by.

Look out for cues

I knew I was ready to come out when it be­came crip­pling to the point that any­time I was alone with ei­ther of my par­ents, out­ing my­self was all I could think about. One day in 2010 my dad and I were talk­ing about re­li­gion; I asked him what he would change about Ju­daism. See­ing I had some­thing to share, he said he didn’t like the way our re­li­gion treats gay peo­ple. Then he asked, “What about you?” That was my mo­ment. I said, “That’s my is­sue, too,” and then af­ter a very, very long pause, I said, “be­cause I’m gay.” I’ll never for­get the look on his face – it was some­thing short of shock. We both felt the weight of that mo­ment, how piv­otal it was for me. And then he im­me­di­ately went into pro­tec­tion mode: “Things aren’t go­ing to be easy. Just be your­self and be proud of who you are.”

Sur­round your­self with the right peo­ple

Af­ter I came out to my dad, I went from feel­ing like be­ing gay was some­thing I had to deal with on my own to feel­ing like I had some­one to help and pro­tect me. My mom was also com­pletely sup­port­ive. I started fo­cus­ing my time on peo­ple who knew ev­ery­thing about me and still loved me. It’s like that fa­mous quote, “Those who mat­ter don’t mind, and those who mind don’t mat­ter.”

For­get the haters

There was a web­site ded­i­cated to an­swer­ing the ques­tion ‘ Is Troye Si­van gay?’ It compiled ev­i­dence – pho­tos, quotes and GIFS of me – and they came to the con­clu­sion that, yes, I was. When I was clos­eted, the fact that this page ex­isted was the most ter­ri­fy­ing thing in the world. But once I came out, I could laugh about it. I was able to take the power back. Once I owned it, the sup­port-to-hate ra­tio leaned so in­sanely to­ward the pos­i­tive that I didn’t care about the neg­a­tive any­more.

Pay it for­ward

Re­cently, I helped a fan come out as bi­sex­ual to her mom dur­ing one of my shows. She’d been wav­ing this note at me, so half­way through my act I took it. It said, “My name is Kelly and I’m bi­sex­ual. My mom’s in the crowd. Please read this aloud.” I did, and the crowd went nuts scream­ing and cheer­ing. I feel a crazy sense of pride for cre­at­ing that en­vi­ron­ment at my shows. Boys wear makeup and hold pride flags. Ev­ery­one needs a haven to be who­ever they want.

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