How to love your getaway

Your bags are packed, the ho­tel is booked. But how to keep the good vibes go­ing on a ro­man­tic trip? Alyssa She­lasky shares tips.

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for a short pe­riod of time I had two boyfriends in two dif­fer­ent cities: east and west. Both were new, com­mit­ment-free re­la­tion­ships. The prob­lem was, I didn’t know which I liked bet­ter. So I tried the ul­ti­mate re­la­tion­ship ap­praisal: a ro­man­tic week­end away. Trav­el­ling is un­nerv­ing for all cou­ples, even mar­ried ones, but skip­ping town with a new part­ner is ul­tra-pre­car­i­ous. So much can go wrong! I soon dis­cov­ered that ‘East’ wasn’t re­ally big on daily show­ers (is that too much to ask?) but that ‘West’ – who smelled like Sun­light green bar soap, bless him – and I were the def­i­ni­tion of compatibility, from sleep­ing to eat­ing. We were so in sync that we’re still dat­ing, one year later. Here are a few tips on nav­i­gat­ing a week­end va­cay, what­ever the stage of your re­la­tion­ship.

1 Man­age your ex­pec­ta­tions

Even in the best-case sce­nario, there will be is­sues. A fender ben­der on the way, a migraine, a lost wal­let. You can’t pre­pare for these bumps in the road, but if you’re gear­ing up for the best week­end ever, you’ll take the hit harder. So re­mind your­selves that you’re hop­ing for a ‘nice’ es­cape. That way, when trou­ble finds you, you can say, “No big deal” and get back on track.

2 Talk money in ad­vance

Have an hon­est con­ver­sa­tion about the di­vi­sion of fi­nan­cial re­spon­si­bil­i­ties be­fore you go. It won’t be sexy, but it will save you stress when the bill ar­rives. Maybe you split every­thing or your part­ner pays for the ho­tel and you’ve got the meals.

3 Have a code word

We all have an­noy­ing habits. And our quirks will be am­pli­fied in a ho­tel room the size of a Mini Cooper. Come up with a code word for when you’re driv­ing each other nuts. And make it funny, like ‘ton­sil!’ This way, no one is fum­ing and you might even catch a free laugh.

4 Be­ware of over­schedul­ing

Sure, ro­mance is alive, but you’re re­ally go­ing away to re­lax. Net­flix and chill in the huge ho­tel bath! The mu­seum will be there next year. If the two of you have dif­fer­ent ideas of down­time, pro­pose a deal, like, “I’ll hit the ho­tel gym in the morn­ing while you sleep in.” Tak­ing a lit­tle break from each other doesn’t make the week­end togetherness any less le­git.

5 Get some fresh air

It’s es­sen­tial to hike, bike, swim or what­ever the cli­mate al­lows for. Noth­ing is more en­chant­ing than play­ing around to­gether in the great out­doors.

6 Bring along grat­i­tude

Trav­el­ling with a part­ner you’re com­pat­i­ble with is one of life’s sweet­est plea­sures, es­pe­cially if it’s some­one you love to kiss. Don’t take it for granted. And if the per­son isn’t su­per ap­peal­ing at the end, that’s when you thank the ho­tel gods for cre­at­ing mini­bars.

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