“I gave up casual sex”

“I used to give guys the benefit of the doubt, and if they made a comment or gesture that was impolite or demeaning to me or women in general, I let it slide. Then I met up with a guy I’d previously hooked up and had sex with, and this time he tried to get his hands in my underwear in a semi-public area. This isn’t something I am inherently against (hey, to each their own), but he did it forcefully without asking if I was OK with it. I found it so disrespectful that I really regretted ever sleeping with him.

I decided that I didn’t want to feel that way again. Now I don’t even consider certain kinds of guys – ones I meet at bars after midnight or certain men on a dating app. I’ve recalibrated myself. This doesn’t mean someone has to be a capital B boyfriend before I have sex with him, but I am going to demand more from any guy I sleep with. If a guy doesn’t want to spend a little time getting to know me, if he doesn’t treat me and my body with respect, that’s a pretty good indicator that I’m not going to introduce him to my vagina.” – Lily, 25