“I gave up casual sex”

“I’m a restaurant bartender, and I slept with a pretty, young delivery boy. The first time we had sex, I was finishing my period, and he didn’t skip a beat. I thought, amazing – he has a constant erection and accepts the female body! So I went down on him enthusiastically.

The next time, he asked me to do it again. I said, ‘I won’t go down on you if you won’t go down on me.’ I cringed while waiting for the words to land. His reply: ‘I don’t really do that.’ For a moment I fantasised about training him to give the best cunnilingus the world’s ever received! But it takes valuable energy to try to change a man. And that violates my cardinal rule: never waste energy on a guy. I’m happy I spoke up, because I’m done talking to him. Next!” – Nadia, 30