Relationships & wellness

… after only dating men. As someone in her 30s who has no experience with this, how much disclosure is necessary to put in an online profile – should I say I’m inexperienced? I’m worried about being misleading otherwise.”

“I’d like to try dating women.” And, way to glow

“I struggled with this when I was coming out. I felt like a fraud until I realised I had just as much right to be in the LGBTQ space as someone who’s been out longer. Include that you haven’t dated women before only if you’re comfortable with it. Don’t put the perceived needs of the invisible person looking at your profile before your own. After all, if you were looking to meet a man, you wouldn’t feel the need to disclose how many guys you’ve dated. These things will come up organically.” – Lauren Morelli, writer for Orange is the New Black

“There’s a benefit to saying, ‘I’m pretty new to dating women’: you’re more likely to find someone else who is, too. Also, from what I’ve observed, it’s very common for women to realise that they would like to date other women later than their early 20s – so don’t worry. It’s not going to be as shocking to people as you think.” – Riese Bernard, editorin-chief of a queercommunity site

“Everyone is misleading on dating sites – they share only the good things about themselves and none of the messier stuff. I imagine your real fear is that you’ll be judged for having no experience. Whether they read that in your profile, or hear about it on your first or second date (which is a fine time to bring it up), what matters is how you feel about it. Spend more time getting right with you rather than worrying about when to tell someone else.” – Lindsay Chrisler, dating and relationship coach