“We want to raise kids who are confidently Muslim.”

Fareeha Molvi, 28, and her husband, Muhibb, are negotiating how their family will practice Islam. “My husband and I share a commitment to the five pillars of Islam, like prayer five times a day and fasting, but there are variations in how those practices play out. For instance, my husband does evening prayer in a group; I do it during Ramadan. I do want to take on this nightly tradition when our sons get older, though.

“We also think about how we can raise children who are confidently Muslim. I’m used to being a spokeswoman for my faith. I hope my children will never need to do that, but if they do, I will tell them to say, ‘I am a person as you are.’

“As I’ve gotten older, my faith has grown with me. I take joy in discovering what Islam will be like for our family.”