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Glamour (South Africa) - - Sex -

“The first time I played submissive to my boyfriend, I was sur­prised by how much the con­sen­sual hu­mil­i­a­tions thrilled me – yet I couldn’t rec­on­cile this plea­sure with my fem­i­nist world view.

“I fight for equal­ity be­tween sexes. I lead a me­dia com­pany. But things I’d never con­done pub­licly turn me on pri­vately. I’m not alone: one study found that 65% of women fan­ta­sise about be­ing submissive. Yet the as­sump­tion is that we couldn’t pos­si­bly be en­joy­ing our­selves dur­ing these ‘re­gres­sive’ romps. The thing is, I do en­joy my­self. It feels dan­ger­ous but serene to sur­ren­der to a per­son I trust. And what part of this is not fem­i­nism? Be­ing a fem­i­nist is about sex­ual au­ton­omy. If a lit­tle rough play is what gets me off, why shouldn’t I em­brace it? We need to take own­er­ship of all ar­eas of our lives. Boss by day or sub by night, I’m a fem­i­nist 24/7.” – Numa Per­rier, TV pro­ducer

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