Glamour (South Africa)

Be SUBMISSIVE

You have the right to…

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“The first time I played submissive to my boyfriend, I was surprised by how much the consensual humiliatio­ns thrilled me – yet I couldn’t reconcile this pleasure with my feminist world view.

“I fight for equality between sexes. I lead a media company. But things I’d never condone publicly turn me on privately. I’m not alone: one study found that 65% of women fantasise about being submissive. Yet the assumption is that we couldn’t possibly be enjoying ourselves during these ‘regressive’ romps. The thing is, I do enjoy myself. It feels dangerous but serene to surrender to a person I trust. And what part of this is not feminism? Being a feminist is about sexual autonomy. If a little rough play is what gets me off, why shouldn’t I embrace it? We need to take ownership of all areas of our lives. Boss by day or sub by night, I’m a feminist 24/7.” – Numa Perrier, TV producer

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