In­spi­ra­tion to the max

Three beloved icons share in­cred­i­ble life ad­vice

Glamour (South Africa) - - Contents -

What is the most im­por­tant les­son you’ve learnt in your ca­reer? Do what you love, and love what you do. There will al­ways be chal­lenges, but if you can find a level of sat­is­fac­tion that makes up for those chal­lenges, you’re probably do­ing what you’re sup­posed to be do­ing. So find what ex­cites you, and do it to the best of your abil­i­ties each day.

What is the im­por­tance of fam­ily? It’s easy to get caught up in the de­mands of daily life, and my fam­ily keeps me grounded and bal­anced. My chil­dren’s love is my great­est joy, and the sup­port of my amaz­ing hus­band, Romeo, makes all the dif­fer­ence. Time with fam­ily is a big part of self-care, be­cause it al­lows you to see your­self through the eyes of peo­ple who love you most.

Ad­vice for tough times?

I was very lucky to in­ter­view Oprah when I was a Top Billing pre­sen­ter, and she told me about The Four Agree­ments (Am­ber-allen Pub­lish­ing; R224) – a book by Don Miguel Ruiz, which sug­gests four prin­ci­ples for hap­pi­ness in life: 1 Be im­pec­ca­ble with your word This means hav­ing in­tegrity, say­ing what you mean, not speak­ing against your­self or oth­ers, and us­ing the power of your words to help cre­ate truth and love. 2 Don’t take any­thing per­son­ally Noth­ing other peo­ple say or do is be­cause of you – it’s all a pro­jec­tion of their re­al­ity, their dream. When you’re im­mune to the opin­ions and ac­tions of oth­ers, you won’t be a vic­tim to un­nec­es­sary suf­fer­ing. 3 Don’t make as­sump­tions Find the courage to ask ques­tions, and ex­press what you want. When we com­mu­ni­cate clearly we can avoid misun­der­stand­ings, sad­ness and drama. This alone can trans­form your life. 4 Al­ways do your best ‘Best’ changes from mo­ment to mo­ment, but sim­ply do your best, what­ever the cir­cum­stances, and you will avoid self-judg­ment and re­gret. If you’re deal­ing with dif­fi­cul­ties, ask your­self, “Have I done my best?” None of us are per­fect, but if you do your ut­most with hon­esty and in­tegrity, you will over­come any chal­lenges.

What are your thoughts on the en­ter­tain­ment world right now?

I’m so moved to see the women of Hol­ly­wood stand up against years of sex­ual ha­rass­ment, and it isn’t be­cause they’re stars, but be­cause of their in­di­vid­ual and col­lec­tive courage. The fact that so many women put up their hands speaks to the fact that we con­tinue to be marginalised and ill-treated, es­pe­cially in SA, where women still earn less than men for the same work. Let’s speak up, de­fend one an­other, and cre­ate net­works for change. It’s time to be recog­nised as the equals we are, and al­ways were!

What is your mes­sage to young women? Reach for your dreams! We are all here for a spe­cific pur­pose, so fig­ure out what yours is and you’ll be able to con­tribute to a bet­ter world. Don’t fall prey to so­cial me­dia: it’s not a true re­flec­tion of re­al­ity. Re­alise your worth so you can ac­tu­alise your fu­ture. And don’t feel like a re­ject if you don’t fit in to a par­tic­u­lar group or en­vi­ron­ment. Just move on and find that place where you are cel­e­brated for who you are!

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