Inspiration to the max
Three beloved icons share incredible life advice
What is the most important lesson you’ve learnt in your career? Do what you love, and love what you do. There will always be challenges, but if you can find a level of satisfaction that makes up for those challenges, you’re probably doing what you’re supposed to be doing. So find what excites you, and do it to the best of your abilities each day.
What is the importance of family? It’s easy to get caught up in the demands of daily life, and my family keeps me grounded and balanced. My children’s love is my greatest joy, and the support of my amazing husband, Romeo, makes all the difference. Time with family is a big part of self-care, because it allows you to see yourself through the eyes of people who love you most.
Advice for tough times?
I was very lucky to interview Oprah when I was a Top Billing presenter, and she told me about The Four Agreements (Amber-allen Publishing; R224) – a book by Don Miguel Ruiz, which suggests four principles for happiness in life: 1 Be impeccable with your word This means having integrity, saying what you mean, not speaking against yourself or others, and using the power of your words to help create truth and love. 2 Don’t take anything personally Nothing other people say or do is because of you – it’s all a projection of their reality, their dream. When you’re immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be a victim to unnecessary suffering. 3 Don’t make assumptions Find the courage to ask questions, and express what you want. When we communicate clearly we can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. This alone can transform your life. 4 Always do your best ‘Best’ changes from moment to moment, but simply do your best, whatever the circumstances, and you will avoid self-judgment and regret. If you’re dealing with difficulties, ask yourself, “Have I done my best?” None of us are perfect, but if you do your utmost with honesty and integrity, you will overcome any challenges.
What are your thoughts on the entertainment world right now?
I’m so moved to see the women of Hollywood stand up against years of sexual harassment, and it isn’t because they’re stars, but because of their individual and collective courage. The fact that so many women put up their hands speaks to the fact that we continue to be marginalised and ill-treated, especially in SA, where women still earn less than men for the same work. Let’s speak up, defend one another, and create networks for change. It’s time to be recognised as the equals we are, and always were!
What is your message to young women? Reach for your dreams! We are all here for a specific purpose, so figure out what yours is and you’ll be able to contribute to a better world. Don’t fall prey to social media: it’s not a true reflection of reality. Realise your worth so you can actualise your future. And don’t feel like a reject if you don’t fit in to a particular group or environment. Just move on and find that place where you are celebrated for who you are!