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Kanti umbhali wencwadi ethi Unfathered, udkt Disa Mogashana naye uvumelana nalo mbhali ongenhla.
Uthi kusuke sekuyisikhathi sokuba ushintshe ukucabanga ngobudlelwano basemndenini obunemiphumela engemihle empilweni.
Uqhuba athi lolu hlelo lobudlelwano lungakwenza uzizwe isithunzi sakho sidicileleke phansi futhi uzibone ungenamsebenzi walutho emndenini.
Uthi kubi futhi uma abantu bakini bezokuhleba, bakhulume kabi ngawe kodwa benze sengathi banendaba nawe ekubeni bekuphahleka ngodaka, bengcolisa igama lakho. Kuyenzeka futhi uthole ukuthi umndeni wakho ugcina ukuxabanisa ngisho nabanye abantu bangaphandle, abangewona amalunga omndeni. kwethi 072 796 1682
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“Uma ukhetha ukuqhelelana nomndeni wakho, kumele uqonde ukuthi lokho kuzoba nemiphumela nokuthi lokho kusho ukuthini, nokuthi uzokwazi yini ukumelana nemiphumela yakho,” kusho yena.
Ngokusho kwakhe, kungenzeka uzitshele ukuthi yisinqumo esikulungele lesi kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzisole ngaso. “Uma usuzisola kumele futhi uzibuze ukuthi kungabe uzimisele yini ngokubuyela emuva uyokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano,” esho.
Udkt Mogashana umile ekutheni uma usuthathe isinqumo sokuqeda ngobudlelwano, kufanele ungabi nandaba ngoba lawo malungu omndeni oziqhelelanise nawo vele awanaqhaza empilweni kodwa axova umphefumulo wakho.
Uma kungukuthi kawukazimiseli ngokuhlukana namalungu omndeni, uthi indlela engcono ngeyokuziqhelelanisa nawo, hhayi ukuthi uqede ubudlelwano.
“Ningahlangana ezintweni ezibalulekile zomndeni njengasemngcwabeni kodwa ungaxhumani nawo nsuku zonke. Uma ekubhalela umyalezo waphendule uma uthanda,” kuqhuba yena.
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