Positive parenting can prevent HIV
The family is the social unit where the child learns acceptable behavior
Aparent’s job is to guide her children safely to adulthood, yet many parents or caregivers neglect to inform children about the risk of contracting HIV — the second-largest cause of death of adolescents globally, and the first in Africa. New HIV infections are mainly concentrated in older adolescents and youths, particularly adolescent girls and young women. South Africa has the highest number of estimated new infections per week among women aged 15-24.
Parents urgently need to have the difficult conversations with their children about sex, sexuality and sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
The role of parents
Parents can play a vital role in prevention strategies for HIV, through their parenting practices, actions and by communicating values and expectations. Adolescent decision-making and behaviour are influenced by factors such as peers, the family, community and society. But parents in particular play a significant role in the gender and sexual socialisation of their children from an early age.
“The family is the social unit where the child learns acceptable behavior,” says Jacqui Dunn from Child Welfare South Africa. “This is also where the child is supposed to experience safety, love and support.”
Heads in the sand
Caroline Wills of the Networking HIV and AIDS Community of Southern Africa (Nacosa) says: “It is not an issue we can afford to have our heads in the sand about. South Africa has a very high number of children living with HIV, with estimates ranging from 330 000 to 450 000 of children under 15 infected. The number of adolescents dying from HIV-associated conditions has doubled in recent years.”
Although schools, through the life orientation curriculum, play a role in providing young people with information about sex, sexuality and STIs, it is not enough to stem the tide of new infections among the youth in South Africa. “So far, we are not having a big enough impact on the rates of new infections amongst school-goers,” says Wills.
Parents and young people report a number of obstacles to open dialogue, including lack of knowledge and skills, as well as cultural norms and taboos. “Parents are often embarrassed to talk about these issues, or they are culturally prevented from discussing sex and sexuality,” says Dunn. But effective parenting for prevention is a potentially life-saving intervention, so it is important for parents to overcome their embarrassment in order to raise happy, healthy and successful children.
Parenting for prevention
Nacosa, in partnership with Child Welfare South Africa, recommends the following simple ways that parents or caregivers can become prevention champions as part of South Africa’s HIV response:
are many damaging myths and misconceptions about HIV that fuel stigma and prevent people from obtaining access to measures that will help prevent HIV. Good, accurate information is available from South Africa’s She Conquers campaign at sheconquerssa.co.za.
embarrassment aside and listen to your children without judgement. Answer their questions honestly; they will learn about sex anyway, so ensure they have accurate information. Children need to be heard and understood by their parents — open, non-judgmental communication is the cornerstone of prevention with young people.
lives. Know where they are, who their friends are, what they are watching and consuming, particularly online. Be alert to any signs of substance abuse. Support them in their schooling life, motivate them to work hard, and be involved in school activities.
Talk to your children about sex, sexuality and the risks associated with sex such as STIs and unwanted pregnancy. Research indicates that there are positive effects from teaching children about HIV at a younger age. Information should be age appropriate and match your child’s level of development.
children develop respect for themselves and the rights of others. Parents are their children’s first and
NACOSA is a network of over 1 500 civil society organisations working to turn the tide on HIV and TB in Southern Africa. It promotes dialogue, builds capacity with accredited training, mentoring and technical assistance and channels resources to support service delivery on the ground. In line with the National Strategic Plan and Unaids’ 90-90-90 Fast Track targets, Nacosa focuses on young women and girls, sex workers, those most affected by gender-based violence, children and youth, and other vulnerable and key populations. For more information visit www.nacosa.org.za
Child Welfare South Africa (CWSA) most influential role models – they look to you to see how to behave in the world. Show them how to make healthy choices and display kindness and respect for others.
caregivers with good mental and physical health can devote more undivided time and attention to the
you are around to see them become successful adults.
The drivers and consequences of HIV on children and young people and their families are complex and multifaceted. By having the conversations, parents and caregivers can play an active part in the HIV response and ensure they raise the next generation of healthy, happy citizens. is the largest child protection, nonprofit organisation in South Africa.
in the achievement of a safe and caring environment for all children in South Africa. CWSA comprises 164 member organisations in over 205 communities spread across all nine provinces of South Africa. Collectively, CWSA annually delivers services to over two million vulnerable and orphaned children in need of care and protection and their families. To contact us please visit www.childwelfaresa.org.za, twitter: @childwelfare_sa; facebook page: childwelfaresa for more information.