Wives abusing husbands

I REFER to the article by Kerushun Pillay in your April 19-23 edition.

Had I written this article it would have been headed “Indian men in denial”.

So often have we read or heard of only women being abused or neglected by alleged promiscuous men.

Nothing is ever written about men being abused or neglected by women, for that matter, yet it is so prevalent (but ignored) because men remain silent.

While some men may be guilty of promiscuity, which I do not condone, other men are victims of women who only care about themselves after getting married.

The novelty of loving wives and husbands, holding hands, cuddling, hugging etc has died off and is hardly seen, especially after the birth of children.

I speak for myself and am confident that I am not alone.

My wife is a home executive. I have provided her with a palatial home with three maids.

She has her own German sports vehicle, paid for by me. She gets a hefty allowance, although all and sundry are provided by me.

She goes on international and local holidays at least three times year, all paid for by me.

All day long she claims to be hectically busy, doing God only knows what. When you question her about her activities, she would want to take your head off.

She does not sit together and have a single meal unless when away on holidays.

My wife watches soapies or movies one after the other until midnight alone, while I lie and wait in bed for my spouse. By the time she comes, I am asleep and my sleep is disturbed.

When she does, eventually, come to bed, she either has a headache or a stomach ache, etc. Such lame old excuses.

She spends long hours on Whats App all day and late hours into the night, entertaining and amusing female friends.

I am now convinced, after 38 years of marriage, that my role in the family home is only to provide and protect her at my expense. Period.

But this is generally the trend in practically most Indian homes today, where the husband is only the provider or breadwinner.

I am stressing the point, that if the spouse is not available constantly to satisfy the needs of her husband, and I don’t mean only sexually, then surely the husband is going to stray and find happiness elsewhere? And I reiterate that I do not condone men having affairs or one night stands outside their marital homes because they cannot be satisfied at home, but are driven from frustration to seek comfort elsewhere.

So let’s be partial and send a strong message to women who are guilty of similar practices, that women should know that men have feelings too, and if their sole intention is to wed only for their personal gain or ego, then ladies, don’t get married.

How would women feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

COMMITTED HUSBAND