When we crack, our inner light shines through
THERE are different event triggers that compound to create existential crises. Fear is a trigger to reconnect us to what makes us human.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anaïs Nin
This week’s question comes from Carmen in Durban: “I am in trouble. I know something is wrong. There are butterflies in my stomach and I can’t eat. I wake up with anxiety every day. My income is uncertain. My mom is in remission and still requires treatment for cancer. I reached the limits of my capacity and I don’t know what to do.”
Dear Carmen, when a life crisis occurs it can trigger a new kind of awareness that changes our outlook on life forever. Life triggers have one thing in common: personal growth to reach beyond the limits of your capacity.
Something has to give. It is only when we crack that the inner light can shine through. Maybe this is hard to hear, but this is how we discover our inner power.
People fear to surrender themselves, but nothing could be further from the truth. When we give up our belief that we have complete control we open for hope to enter our lives. It is letting go that lets in something bigger than us.
You carry the burden of responsibility. Your focus is outwards and that is why you feel trapped. Perhaps your sense of what is wrong is that you are not drawing on your inner strength.
This is the domain of personal transformation: you are forced to look towards your ability to adapt and live consciously with self-awareness.
Successful people adapt. See beyond appearance. Start by finding the hidden gifts in this situation:
1) You wake up every day. 2) Your mom is in remission. 3) Your income cannot be defined by a number, which means you can receive anything. 4) Butterflies in your tummy might also be excitement because you will soon experience change in the way you live. 5) You are taking responsibility because you reached out to me. Here are five different ways to look at what you already told me.
This stronger version of you will impact on others who need hope by looking up to you and how you cope with what is happening. Magic happens when we realise that many people are experiencing a life crises and we are all moving as a society to become more vulnerable and reach out to each other.
It is in vulnerability that we discover our humanity.
As a society we can correct our systems that no longer support our needs.
I believe that by not coping we are forced to reach out and counter the emotional numbness created by social media communication.
Adelé Green is a transformation specialist and the author of Can You See Me Naked? Send your question to www. adele-green.com/askadele/ You can hear her on #360Brunch at noon on Sundays on Mix93.8FM.