RECOVERING FROM A BREAK-UP REQUIRES ONE TO BE TOUGH AND STRONG

RELATIONSHIP expert Gift Sukazi says that recovering from a humiliating break-up requires one to dig deep.

“As cliché as it sounds, you have to realise that the way in which someone went about breaking up with you says a lot about them, not you. The healing process will not be overnight. It will take a while, but the trick is to give yourself a deadline, and stick to it.

“Allow yourself to feel the pain. Yell, cry, break things if you have to, stay in bed and refuse to open the windows, but mark a certain date when you will get up again and pick up all your pieces, and on that day, do exactly that – get up and pick up the pieces.

“On that day, stop crying, stop dwelling on it, stop cracking your brain about what you did wrong, let go of all the revenge thoughts and just close that chapter in your life.

“If the break-up was done in a public forum like Facebook, try by all means to avoid reading people’s comments about it. Do not respond to the post, even if every bone in your body wants you to.

“Get up. Get yourself a new wardrobe. Change your hair. Buy a gadget you have always wanted. Remember, a break-up only means that you have the time and opportunity to focus on yourself, to do the things that you like without compromise, and bask in your own company. With time, you will realise that you did not need a cruel person like your ex in your life.”