Why getting drunk for a roll in the hay is simply not a great idea
Readers share some of the good and shocking tips they’ve heard
Remember how excited you were when you first heard about sex? Everyone can surely remember how old they were when they first started hearing about the fascinating concept of copulation.
Over the years, we have all received different types of advice when it comes to sex, coming from friends, siblings to the open aunt or uncle you could confide in.
While some have proven effective, and have equipped us with secret weapons, some tips and anecdotes were simply an act of the blind leading the blind.
What is the best and worst advice you have ever received about sex?
● Sipho Nkomo, 28, Durban Best advice: “Probably nipple play. I honestly had no idea that nipples were so sensitive, and that sucking on them can drive you to the precipice of an orgasm. This is the one trick that I always use for heightened enjoyment. Worst advice: “It happened while we were still in high school, when there was this silly trend of using emotional blackmail to get a girl to sleep with you.
A lot of the guys, myself included, used the ‘if you love me you must prove it’ tactic, and proving it meant having sex with me. Some guys still use it to this day. Really silly.”
● Refilwe*, 32, Eldorado Park
Best advice: “The best sex advice I ever received was to be in control of my own orgasm. As women, we tend to expect that orgasm will come from the guy doing all the work. I learned to adjust myself in certain ways or do certain positions that will almost guarantee me an or-
gasm!”
Worst advice: “The worst advice regarding sex was that if a guy pulls out before he ejaculates, you are safe. I once caught an STI with that stupid tactic.”
● Beauty*, 40, Kempton Park
Best advice: “I did not know that certain foods that you eat have an effect on how things smell down there.
I used to eat anything and everything, and there have been quite a few embarrassing whiffs.
Now I avoid fish, garlic, and cabbage if I know I’m going to get frisky.” Worst advice: “Someone once told me that applying Vicks ointment down there will make things tighter and make for a pleasurable experience during sex. I almost burned my sensitive privates off !”
● Thapelo*, 31, Johannesburg CBD
Best advice: “To control my orgasm. Think of something else to distract me, making my orgasm last longer, which accommodates my woman. This oneminute man thing is an excuse. You can train yourself.”
Worst advice: “That being drunk is the best sex ever, and will make you a beast in bed. Not true. I mostly ended up passing out or not being able to get it up.”
● Abel* , 29, Alberton Best advice: “To learn how to multitask and put on the condom while still enjoying foreplay, in turn, avoiding the awkwardness of fiddling around, looking for a condom, struggling to unwrap it.”
Worst advice: “That you can ‘feel’ when a woman has had sex with someone else before you. I used to be paranoid about it. There is no such thing.”
(*Not real names.)