I cannot simply warm up to my ‘new’ sister

Father has to be reasonable and give everyone time

My father recently called us into a meeting to introduce our oldest sister that my two siblings and I did not know anything about. She is 23 and I am 21 and now I am expected to foster some relations with her. I cannot do that as I am still angry at my dad. How do I get past this? MOM replies:

Who is expecting you to foster a relationship with her? Tell that person to give you time to adjust to the news. It’s your father who must foster a relationship with her, not you. You, on the other hand, need to accept her because you share the same DNA. What if you needed a kidney tomorrow and she was the perfect match? Think broadly Dahlink, she may even teach you a lot about life, including how to handle boys.

Boitumelo replies:.

You are entitled to feel angry and betrayed. It’s understandable. Perhaps you need time to adjust to the news.

Your father has an expectation for you to accept your new halfsister, while you are still hung up on the thought that he had another child you didn’t know anything about. Maybe you need to explain to your father that you don’t want to be pushed into doing something you are not ready to do. However, what is done cannot be changed, remember children are born into situations and families, they do not have a choice and can’t be punished for their parent’s actions.