Answers to sex questions you may be scared to ask

We ask an expert tough questions

Being concerned about your sex life is difficult enough without knowing what you are doing wrong or whether or not you should be worried. Sharon Gordon has 15 years of experience in the sex industry, has previously studied sexology and often gives sex lectures and assists couples with intimacy coaching. We asked her to answer some basic sex-related questions:

Q: I suffer from erectile dysfunction. What can I do?

A: In the industry we say “ED equals early death”, so if you’re suffering from erectile dysfunction, look for the big three: hypertension, diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

You have to see a doctor because the chances are good that you’re suffering from one of these conditions.

Luckily, these are treatable conditions and, if that’s not the problem, you’re in luck because men can take Viagra.

Q: Are there ways of boosting my libido?

A: Sex is in the head, so you have to stimulate your brain and if your partner doesn’t do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. Perhaps reading a bit of erotica or watching some porn will get you in the mood.

Q: What age is appropriate for me to start talking to my child about sex?

A: The minute they are born. You must give your genitals their proper name and if they ask you a question, answer it honestly – do not lie.

If children know about sex and they know what’s acceptable in certain social settings, they are empowered to say no and tell an adult if they’re uncomfortable.