Sex, lies and how to be a model date
Stevel Marc launches his book with some candid advice to fellow celebrities
JUST what we all need: dating advice from a male model who says he’s a “refined player”.
Hunky Stevel Marc this week launched his book, The Refined Player: Sex, Lies and Dates, in which he shares his experiences of dating and draws on the experiences of 800 people he interviewed.
On Tuesday, Marc launched his book at a cosy cocktail soiree at the Pepper Club Hotel in the Cape Town CBD, hosted by TV and radio personality Liezel van der Westhuizen.
Looking dashing in a navy tailored suit complemented by a colourful pocket square and maroon brogues, Marc told guests: “Women are so used to thinking that they are the problem in failed relationships, and men always believe their manhood lies in their penises.
“This is what my book addresses, and it focuses on issues faced by both men and women.”
The Jamaican-born model, who lives in Johannesburg, is known for strutting his stuff on runways and featuring in fashion catalogues.
He was the perfect host, chatting to his guests including fellow models Adeola Ariyo, Happy Umurerwa and Irina Miccoli, and actor Mike Dube.
Wine and champers flowed and canapés including sushi, fruit and spring rolls were offered around — foods Marc said he had indulged in while penning his book.
His publicists say that after being confronted with the realisation that he suffered from intimacy issues, Marc was led to a place of reflection and selfrevelation.
“I realised I could either continue in fear, allowing and living the facade of loving ‘playerhood’ and ignore the pain I felt, or evolve and be the man I knew I was deep within: a good man,” he is quoted as saying in the book’s publicity material.
“It was time to become the refined player. A refined player means you’re no longer a player. You’re always the perfect gentleman or lady — the dream man or woman who screams marriage material, even though you may not be ready to get married.”
But in person this week, Marc was more frank — about sex.
“Why would you sleep with someone when you don’t know what their intentions are? Men need to know that after two to four sexual encounters with a woman, they have to know what their intentions are . . . because women will eventually ask.
“Men also need to know women love sex as much as they do, if not more. Just because they don’t talk about it or always have it on their minds doesn’t mean they are less exciting in bed.”
On that titillating note, Marc concluded the discussion and moved his guests to the penthouse of the hotel, where they were treated to more drinks and a little party session.
Men also need to know women love sex as much as they do, if not more