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WHEN you are young you sweat the small stuff, you take on every battle, you try to prove a point, you want to be right
Over the last 10 years I have attended a number of 50 year celebrations. Now most of my long-time friends are older than me, and this has been a conscious decision and a blessing. I have learnt and continue to grow from my people as I often refer to them. They have walked a longer path than me, they have made mistakes and paid their school fees. They share their life journeys selflessly and truthfully with me. I have found myself to be one of the younger friends they have.
There is no popularity competition everyone is in their own lane and being the best version of themselves, living their authentic truths. You don t choose your family, but you choose your friends and your friends then become your family.
Two weeks ago I attended a friends 60th, Kganyapa Molapo, and last week another dear friend Mingi Ntshingila turned 50. I often tease my friends that I need to find new friends and hang out with people my age. The retort is always that we need to get rid of you in our circle because you are cramping istyla sethu The reality is that as Isaac Newton said: If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants.”
I am the product of mentorship, my primary mentor was my mother, uNomazizi, my elder sisters, Lerato and Johanna are my counsel of elders, Nomsa Ntshingila, my Elizabeth Doreen Morris my mentor, so is Felicia Mabuza- Suttle. I am inspired by Wendy Luhabe and Dr Judy Dlamini. My circle of friends who are +42 and in their 50 s and 60 s are my role models. Of course I am motivated by souls younger than me, my sisterhood, and children of my heart I mentor, they make me understand the world they live in, and keep me current (*wink), trendy and on the pulse of what s going down to use their slang.
Dr Victor Ramathesele proposed a toast two weeks ago at Kganyapa Molapo s 60th, Lerato Molapo-Kohl Lira s father and I loved what he said: At 40 you worry about what people say about you, at 50 you don t care what they say about you, at 60 you realise they were saying nothing about you. Those are some pearls of wisdom I glean from my friends.
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