Political debates should be conducted in a constructive manner

This year we will see high-stakes elections in more than 50 countries worldwide, and SA is of course one of those countries.

There is a general sense that change is necessary, that things cannot continue as they are, and for most of us these elections have focused our political attention like few before.

Political debates are streamed at us from everywhere, from television to social media, from the workplace discussions with colleagues to even our home life with family and friends.

These debates and arguments are often characterised by more heat than light, and we can do tremendous lasting harm to important relationships by the way we conduct ourselves during these political conflicts.

There are several studies available showing examples of such harm caused by the polarisation resulting from the Trump debates in the US, for example.

But what should we then do about these risks? Simply not speak our mind, keep quiet for the sake of peace?

At times this is a wise strategy, yes, but conflict is also never resolved by avoiding it.

We need to be able to have open and honest discussions about our views — in a constructive manner.

We should remind ourselves that we live in a young democracy and that different views are to be expected in such a system.

Have we considered the alternatives?

Do yourself and others the favour of allowing others to express their views, even if they are wrong (as we so easily believe) — let them be wrong.

Political dissent should not be taken personally.

In your circle of family, friends or colleagues try to revive the old tradition of tough but dignified, respectful debate (maybe our politicians can even learn something from you).

Argue the merits, realise that insults are an awful way to try to persuade other people.

If you have the time, learn how to work with identity conflicts as the best modern conflict tool to persuade people, especially in political environments.

In these debates, make it clear that we are South Africans busy with problem solving, that we are all looking for solutions in our own way, and that personal attacks get in the way of progress.

You can make your political points robustly and vigorously, nothing is wrong with that.

As we have said before, we do not need less conflict, we need better conflict.

● You can contact Andre Vlok

at andre@conflictresolutioncentre.co.za