THE DO’S AND DON’TS

1. Don’t have expectations. If your partner is shocked when you use dirty words the first time, don’t think you’re the problem. They probably still need to own that part of themselves. So, give them time. Remember not to worry about the other person more than you. Worry about how dirty talk will make you feel. Sex is about putting yourself first.

2. Don’t be ashamed to describe your feelings and desires. Vocalise these and ask your partner what he’d like to do to you. Using text can also help when you’re a newbie to the act of talking dirty – and in the long run, you’ll start being more comfortable. 3. Drop your ‘good girl’ obsession. Take on different personas and bring your fantasies to life through naughty words.

4. Allow yourself to experience. Find someone you can practise with, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends. Their dirty talk techniques may help you get a little more comfortable when introducing this into your sex life.

5. Find a language that exists in your world. You don’t have to mimic another person’s language – what works for them might not necessarily work for you.

6. Do use text and videos messages to deliver your dirty notes. And if words fail you, Google song lyrics that will help you express your desires and needs more explicitly.

7. Start labelling how you feel in sexual words. Try to not sugar-coat your true desires.