I CAN’T FIND A MAN WHO WANTS ONLY ME

My husband divorced me 10 years ago because he fell in love with someone else. I was 41 at the time and for the past 10 years I’ve focused on making sure my son grows up happy and well looked after. He’s now at university and loving it. I didn’t give myself the chance to meet people and possibly fall in love, but after my son moved away from home I met someone special and fell madly in love.

We dated for 10 months and just when I was hoping he’d pop the question I discovered I’m not the only woman in his life. He had to choose between the two of us and chose the other woman. I felt the pain of being rejected all over again. I recently met another man but not long into our relationship I found out he’s also seeing other women. I feel as if I’m not good enough. Why does this keep happening and how do I get over this? Leandre, email It might feel as if this is the theme of your life but you need to stop thinking it’s because you’re not good enough. It’s more likely that you’re choosing the wrong type of men – men who are flawed and dishonest and use people.

Consider going for psychological counselling so that a therapist can help you to figure out why you’re inclined to seek out or be attracted to this type of man.

A psychologist can also help you to work on your confidence and self-esteem so you can start believing that you are special and deserve a better calibre of partner.

‘Regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life’ – U.S. WRITER MAYA ANGELOU