SHE’S EVERYTHING I WANT

Q I fell in love with a woman two years ago. I was in my early thirties at the time and she didn’t want to go out with me because she’s six years older than I am.

The age gap didn’t bother me at all but it was something she just couldn’t get over. I found her so beautiful, talented and special that the difference in our ages didn’t even cross my mind.

We went our separate ways and I dated other women but couldn’t find that special person (which I felt I’d found in her). I thought I’d have got her out of my system by now but I recently bumped into her and I immediately felt that attraction again and found her as beautiful as the first time I saw her. What can I do? It seems she hasn’t found someone special in her life either. Ronald, email A An age difference of six years really isn’t much at all, but she obviously felt sensitive about it. Contact her again and ask her out to dinner and use the opportunity to talk to her about it.

Tell her you still think she’s the most special woman you’ve met and that you feel the two of you are losing valuable time by allowing a six-year age difference to stop you having a relationship. Tell her certain people just get better with age and you think she’s one of those people.

Ask her to be brave and to take a leap of faith with you because you feel the two of you could be good together. Sometimes worrying too much about the future can sully the present.

While there are no guarantees in life, it’s also true that life is what we make it – we determine what we want out of life and we choose how to attain it. And you clearly know what you want – so go after it!