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All par­ents want the best for their kids, but our lov­ing at­tempts can some­times do more harm than good. Overindulging and over­prais­ing kids won’t do them any favours in the long run. Here are a few strate­gies to help put things in per­spec­tive.

1 REG­U­LAR DOSES OF VI­TA­MIN N “There’s a lack of vi­ta­min N th­ese days – vi­ta­min No,” says US-based psy­chol­o­gist John Rose­mond.

Kids who are overindulged of­ten end up be­ing fussy and de­mand­ing. “They’re never happy with what they have, they al­ways want more. Par­ents need to un­der­stand it’s okay to say no to their kids some­times – in fact, it’s vi­tal. And kids have to know that you can’t be swayed,” says Nikki Bush, au­thor or Fu­ture-proof Your Child. that they re­spect bound­aries and au­thor­ity.

Chil­dren learn by ex­am­ple, Bush says, so be care­ful of in­ad­ver­tently teach­ing your child that it’s okay to dis­re­spect adult au­thor­ity. If you have a prob­lem with your child’s teacher, for ex­am­ple, han­dle it pri­vately – don’t dis­cuss it in front of your child and un­der­mine the teacher’s au­thor­ity.

3 GIVE THEM CHORES Rather than let­ting your kids veg out in front of the TV while you slave away, get them to help around the house.

“Get­ting chil­dren in the habit of pitch­ing in with daily house­hold chores not only en­cour­ages them to step up and do their part at home, it gives them the skills they need to achieve a suc­cess­ful fu­ture,” says Jan­ice Holsinger, US-based par­ent­ing and child­hood ed­u­ca­tion ex­pert.

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