MY SEX-LIFE IS OUT OF CONTROL

Q For years I fantasised about sleeping with strange men and having one-night stands.

When I eventually started doing it I was already married and it’s been going on for more than two years. I’m not practising safe sex because the thrill of it being dangerous or possibly fatal makes it even more of an attraction to me.

In sane moments I can’t actually believe it doesn’t bother me that I’m placing my husband’s life at risk, not to mention my own. It’s as if I’m addicted to this type of sex and if I don’t get it for a week or more I become grumpy and depressed.

What can I do? Gladys, email A There’s obviously a destructive part of you that’s willing not only to put your own life at risk but also that of your husband. You also risk destroying your marriage and the life you’ve built with your husband. You’re playing a sort of Russian roulette and enjoying the thrill of it.

Your reasons for doing so may be deep within your unconscious mind and I believe that getting to the bottom will be difficult with traditional therapy. It would be best to consult with a psychologist trained in psychoanalysis or hypnotherapy so that the underlying motivations in your unconscious mind can be explored.

In the meantime, avoid having unprotected sex with your husband so that at least you safeguard him until a psychologist is able to help you resolve the matter.