I CAN’T STAND THE VERBAL ABUSE

I’m 41 and my husband of 17 years is 62. I wanted to start our married life with no secrets but he keeps bringing up my past and throwing it in my face every chance he gets – including the child I had and lost with a man I didn’t know was married at the time. It’s especially painful for me because I haven’t had another.

I’ve asked him why he stays with me and he tells me he loves me. But is it possible to behave like that towards someone you love? He refuses to father a child, buy a house or do any of the things married couples normally do. He says he doesn’t want any kind of long-term commitment because he just wants to live from day to day.

We argue daily and he’s said no man will look at me with romantic intentions. He’s won because I feel hopeless, ugly and helpless. I feel such rage when he gets home from work and all I do is cry until I fall asleep.

Many men, even his friends, say they’d give anything to have a good wife like me. I’ve asked him for a divorce many times because I want more out of life but he always says he wants a second chance. Is this how married life should be? Desperate, email One of these days your anger will become so intense that instead of crying and falling asleep you might do something drastic instead – something that could ruin your life. So leave now, before you do something you might regret. You can still have another life. You don’t have to discuss it or ask him for a divorce – simply leave and then sue him for divorce.

Your husband is a cruel man with his own issues. He wants you to stay to be his emotional punching bag. You and you alone can change the situation – by leaving and getting a divorce.

If you haven’t already done so, tell family and friends how he behaves towards you and let them help you. A new life awaits you – you just have to take the steps to get there.