I DIDN’T REALISE WHAT I HAD BEFORE

I broke up with my boyfriend of two years just before the festive season because I wanted to be footloose and fancy-free while on holiday.

I went to Mauritius with friends and had a ball, dancing the night away, swimming in a moonlit sea with several really attractive guys and enjoying holiday flings.

But after I got back home reality hit me. I don’t really want any of those hunks I met on the beach because they don’t have the same motivation, drive and personality as my ex-boyfriend.

My ex is emotionally sensitive and always looked after my best interests and spoilt me rotten.

But he refuses to get back together. He says he can’t trust me and is worried I’ll hurt him again.

I don’t understand because I’m sincere about my feelings for him and I know I made a mistake.

What can I do? No longer confused, email People aren’t toys to be discarded when you’re tired of them and then taken up again when you feel like playing.

Your ex was obviously devastated when you broke up with him and it’s understandable that he wouldn’t find it easy to trust you again.

Forget about resuming a romantic relationship with him just yet. He needs time to get over the hurt and start trusting you again.

The only thing you can do is ask if he’s willing to just be friends and then you have to make the effort to be the best and most trustworthy friend he’s ever had.

You’re going to have to start from scratch and hopefully sometime in the future he’ll feel safe enough to trust you with his heart again.