HE KEEPS GOING BACK TO HIS EX

My boyfriend and I have been together since 2015 but he keeps going back to his ex, no matter how good things are between us. He also tells her personal things about our relationship, which really bothers me.

He fights every man she gets involved with but then doesn’t acknowledge her in my presence, even when she’s also there.

He treats me right – I can’t complain about that. I just don’t understand why he’s so obsessed with this woman.

I’m slowly developing resentment towards him and I don’t want to. What should I do? Please help. Confused, email

Your boyfriend seems pretty mixed up with regard to his feelings. On the one hand he wants to be in a relationship with you, but he also doesn’t want to allow his ex to move on with someone else.

He’s probably not acknowledging her in your presence because he doesn’t want to lose you, but things can’t go on like this.

Tell him to take time out so he can think about how he really feels and make up his mind about what he wants. He needs to decide – it’s either you or her. He can’t have a foot in both worlds, so to speak, having a relationship with you but not quite fully committed to it.

He can’t behave as if she’s his best buddy and share everything with her while at the same time declaring undying love for you.

Maybe once he’s had time to think about things he’ll understand he’s messing up his chance with you.

This isn’t a quick fix. I suggest you give him at least six months to be on his own and truly think about what he wants.

If, at the end of this time, he chooses you but then you find his behaviour regarding his ex doesn’t change, you’ll need to end things with him for good.

It may break your heart, but you deserve a man who doesn’t have an anchor in the form of his ex weighing him down.