I THINK LOVE IS OVERRATED

I’ve fallen in love with a woman I met a month ago. I didn’t know at the time that she works as a hostess and is willing to sleep with the men who pay her to go out with them if the money is right.

She doesn’t understand what she’s doing is wrong and feels we can still have a relationship as the other guys are “work”. She makes good money and says she doesn’t want a regular job as the work she’s doing now means she can get all the things she wants in a shorter time.

She grew up in a very poor neighbourhood and it’s important to her to have all the things she didn’t have growing up.

How can I persuade her to get a regular job and be satisfied with a regular life? Jean, email It seems the deprivations of her past have made your girlfriend hanker for the material things in life and she can’t see beyond wanting money.

So at the moment it doesn’t matter to her that money cannot buy health, happiness, friendship, loyalty and – most important of all – love.

She will realise this someday, but by then it might be too late.

It’s clear the two of you have different perspectives on life and your values differ vastly from hers. This alone does not bode well for the relationship, never mind the issues that arise from how she makes a living.

It would be best for you to walk away from the relationship. You haven’t known her for long, so rather break it off now than hope that things will change and face all the pitfalls of such a relationship.