MY BOYFRIEND IS FLIRTING WITH MY FRIENDS

I’m in my fourth year at university and have managed to snag the guy I’ve been eyeing for three years. He’s a really handsome, charming man and most of my girlfriends are attractive young women. The problem is when we’re with any of them he flirts outrageously with them and they do the same with him.

This makes me feel very insecure – to the extent that I don’t want to invite him to any gettogethers with my friends.

When we’re with his friends he also tends to be the centre of attention and girls go for him big time. He tells me it’s just an act and that he loves me. But when we’re with other people I don’t feel special because he doesn’t treat me like his girlfriend – he treats me like any of the people there. What can I do? Paris, email Like many attractive people, your boyfriend is probably so used to being the centre of attention that he sees it as his due and tends to play up to the audience.

But when you’re in a relationship you should make the other person feel special and show others the person is special to you. If he can’t do that, I’d say his love is superficial and you should rethink the relationship.

You should also speak to your girlfriends. I’m sure they wouldn’t be impressed if you started flirting with their boyfriends – it’s simply not what friends do. If they don’t take you seriously, I suggest you rethink these friendships too.