I HATE HIM AND WANT REVENGE

I was engaged to my fiancé for two years and suddenly a week before our wedding he got cold feet and told me he’s been having an affair for a year and that he loves her and wants to marry her.

He didn’t even try to end the relationship in a kind manner – he said he thought I was a fool not to have realised that he didn’t love me and that he was only using me as I earn a good salary and helped him get on his feet. I even found a job for him. He also told me I’m ugly and should have known a man like him (people think he’s very attractive) would never want a girl who looks like me!

My love for him has turned into hate overnight and I’ve even thought about killing him. But I have to be careful because I don’t want to be caught. Anonymous, email It is completely understandable that you feel angry, hurt and betrayed. At the same time, you are lucky to be rid of this man as he simply used you and clearly feels no remorse about it at all. You are certainly better off without someone like this in your life.

He sounds like a dangerous and vindictive man and it’s clear from his behaviour that he did not value or appreciate you.

But your anger is clouding your judgment. Why put yourself on the wrong side of the law because of this no-good person? It is understandable that you want him to pay somehow for the hurt he’s caused you, but revenge is not as satisfying as you think it may be – it is likely to only traumatise you more.

Seek urgent help from a psychologist so you can work through your anger and resentment before it destroys you. Don’t mess up your life for his sake. He is not worth it.