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OUR TWO-YEAR OLD REFUSES TO SLEEP ON HIS OWN, EVEN AFTER THREE MONTHS OF TRYING. HAVE WE LEFT IT TOO LATE?

Toddlers are creatures of habit, so change makes them feel uncomfortable. They pick up on your emotions and will take the lead from how you are handling the change.

First, balance out the level of control. Put parameters in place so that your toddler knows what is acceptable and what is not. Have rules for yourself too. For example, is it OK for the child to climb into our bed during the night? Do we take him back to his bed after he falls asleep? Then, allow your toddler to make decisions too - Does he want a toy in the bath, or some bubbles in the water? Let him choose his pajamas and bed time story too.

Secondly toddlers are all about fun. Make the change a fun experience that involves them so that they can get excited about the transition. Take him shopping for bedding or a special teddy bear to sleep with. Talk about it with your toddler and create some enthusiasm.

Thirdly, implement a consequence and reward system. Reward him for sticking to the boundaries and have a consequence for not sticking to the boundaries. A sticker chart can work well here.

In the beginning your toddler will challenge you endlessly, but consistency is key. It does take time so be patient, he will catch on eventually.