From the ed­i­tor

HE­LEN SCHÖER

Your Baby & Toddler - - Contents -

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ast night I de­cided to see how much my teenager can re­mem­ber about be­gin lit­tle. We had such a laugh! She can’t re­mem­ber be­ing born (euw, mommy!), or hav­ing her nappy changed (euw again!), but she can re­mem­ber en­joy­ing her dummy and bot­tle. She was very at­tached. We man­aged to pin­point the ex­act start of her mem­o­ries... She can’t re­mem­ber her baby sis­ter com­ing home from hos­pi­tal, but she can re­mem­ber her third birthday party, which took place ex­actly one week later. “Ev­ery­thing was pink and there were straw­ber­ries on the cake!” Her dad baked it, so he felt re­ally good that she still re­mem­bers it so fondly.

Missy 14 can’t re­mem­ber ever throw­ing a tantrum. Strangely enough, I can’t re­mem­ber them ei­ther, al­though I know she cer­tainly did throw them. I think na­ture wired moms’ brains that way: the bad things fade. In­tel­lec­tu­ally, we know they hap­pened, but the neg­a­tive emo­tions just don’t mat­ter any­more once a bit of time has passed. This brings me to this month’s main fea­ture on brain de­vel­op­ment (page 20). Of course, there’s a lot you can and should do to make sure your baby de­vel­ops op­ti­mally, but un­der­ly­ing all the ad­vice is a big chunk of com­mon sense: love your baby; just love your baby and let that love guide you. Then the games and cud­dles and choices that build bonds will come nat­u­rally, and it’s those bonds that lead to a healthy brain. With­out love, the best diet and stim­u­la­tion in the world will achieve noth­ing. Also, rest as­sured that your mis­takes and any tough times will fade and be for­got­ten as long as your bond stays strong. That’s the magic of moth­er­hood.

Stay warm!

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