WHAT TO DO IF YOUR FRIEND IS JEALOUS ABOUT YOUR NEW BABY?

Jealousy, explains clinical psychologist Riette du Preez, often indicates poor communication, as well as a complex and intense emotion with many unspoken dynamics – sadness, hurt, rejection – lurking beneath the surface. Don’t address the emotion straight-on by telling your friend she’s jealous. This could come off as an attack and could escalate emotions. Although you can’t take responsibility for another person’s feelings, try and be mindful of what may be causing the perceived jealousy. Try remedy the situation by spending time together while being emotional available, and enquiring after your friend’s needs. Perhaps your friend is trying unsuccessfully to fall pregnant. Explore what it is that your friend needs to deal with the birth of your baby. Perhaps time? Perhaps talking about her feelings? Remember that your friend might not be able to express her needs, or her needs might change. If the friendship is important, be patient while things find a new balance.