Quick tips

HOW TO KEEP INTIMACY ALIVE DURING PREGNANCY

• COMMUNICATE. “As in any relationship, communication is vital,” says counselling psychologist Shenila Maharaj. Speak to your partner about the physical and emotional changes you’re experiencing. Talk about your concerns and anxieties. He or she may share these same concerns, and you can offer each other support.

• BE IN IT TOGETHER. “Pregnancy tends to bring out all of the differences between you and your partner and can lead to both of you feeling that you’re not in tune with each other,” explains counselling psychologist Claire Hart. Concentrating on what you share or have in common is more important. Dealing with major changes and renegotiating your relationship during and after pregnancy requires awareness and participation from both of you.

• RESEARCH. The phrase ‘‘knowledge is power’’ is very useful for you to remember at this time, Shelina says. “The more you understand about the changes you’re going through, the more prepared and able you’ll be to manage them better.”

• TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Rest, exercise and eat well. And spoil yourself occasionally – soak in a bubble bath, get a foot massage or get a manicure or pedicure.

• WHEN YOU’RE FEELING OVERWHELMED, REMEMBER: THIS TOO SHALL PASS. “The bodily changes that you experience may be overwhelming,” Shenila says. It may feel like something invading your body and taking priority over you. You may feel ugly and upset with your body image and may therefore not be interested in your partner’s advances. “Accept the changes you’re undergoing, and know that you’ll get through it. Remind yourself of the end result

– a beautiful baby.” ●