THINGS LANKAN GIRLS WANT IN A GUY

Apart from having so much fun writing what Guys wanted in a Girl, I was inspired to write this because someone triggered me by asking what I looked for in a potential partner. I believe I speak for many when I say that my initial “list” in my 20s was three A4 pages long, over the years I crossed out many because I realised that I was asking for a unicorn or some mythical beast and not a man. Ten years of careful filtering has left me with one requirement: a pulse. Unlike with guys, the girls who responded to this all seemed to resonate the same things with some responses being identical.

1 Mirror, Mirror in the Gym

Scrolling through social media, it's apparent that men either devote their waking hours to the gym or a bar. There's hardly any middle ground. They will either be too obsessed with their six pack or watering their fanny pack – both too busy to pay attention to girls. While no one made special note of good looks, there were a few requests to have guys who knew the balance in the physique department, after all, no one got abs to show just one girl.

2 That Dough, Though

It's shocking to find that some men expect their wealth to be handed to them by their parents. As the golden child or the sudu putha this is mostly the case in the Lankan backdrop. The girls were all in favour of a man who understood the credit card money is as good as no money.

3 The Scale

While many guys express their love with grand gestures – 50 longstemmed roses, champagne breakfasts, elephant safaris in Habarana while most often the elephant in the room is not addressed. I was happy when a female Lankan Redditor said that she would love a partner who extended their love by sharing responsibilities around the house. Since these grand gestures are limited to two to three times a year, why not look at cost-effective means of helping with dishes and laundry that will display their love throughout the year! After all, most of these chores centre around both parties and it makes no sense why the weight is mostly loaded on the female.

4 Miss(ing) Esteem

So many women want men who’d make them feel good – remember how you used to compliment her all the time when you first started dating? We’d like that to continue! I wish more men understood how powerful they are and how each word could boost esteem or just destroy it.

5 Bringing Back Dates

Dating is not just the phase that gets you into a relationship. There is no law that dictates that men should stop courting/dating their lady after many years of dating or marriage. Dating, as denoted by its term is a date/time affixed by both parties that are not limited to the premarital phase.

6 The Little Things

Now I understand that we discussed point 2, but isn’t it when you realise that you cannot afford the Rolex you say that you don’t like watches. If you don’t have men who treat you right, you feel the need to treat yourself. Thus, feminists are born. If you think feminists are born, you have another think coming. You’d be surprised that most women don’t really want expensive gifts all the time, but the key word we’re looking for is thoughtfulness.