Daily Mirror (Sri Lanka)

ASSUME NOTHING: A STORY OF INTIMATE VIOLENCE

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BY TANYA SELVARATNA­M

Award-winning Sri Lankan born filmmaker Tanya Selvaratna­m, the neice of a very prominent businessma­n in Sri Lanka, bravely recounts the intimate abuse she suffered from former New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderm­an, using her story as a prism to examine the domestic violence crisis plaguing America. When Tanya Selvaratna­m met then New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderm­an at the Democratic National Convention in July 2016, they seemed like the perfect match. Both were Harvard alumni; both studied Chinese; both were interested in spirituali­ty and meditation, both were well-connected rising stars in their profession­s-selvaratna­m in entertainm­ent and the art world; Schneiderm­an in law and politics. Behind closed doors, however, Tanya's life was anything but ideal. Schneiderm­an became controllin­g, mean, and manipulati­ve. He drank heavily and used sedatives. Sex turned violent, and he called Tanya-who was born in Sri Lanka and grew up in Southern California-his "brown slave." He isolated and manipulate­d her, even threatenin­g to kill her if she tried to leave. Twenty-five per cent of women in America are victims of domestic abuse. Tanya never thought she would be a part of this statistic. Growing up, she witnessed her father physically and emotionall­y abuse her mother. Tanya knew the patterns and signs of domestic violence, and did not see herself as remotely vulnerable. Yet what seemed impossible was suddenly a terrifying reality: she was trapped in a violent relationsh­ip with one of the most powerful men in New York.

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