Chewing Gum Problems and A Bag Full of Tears
I have a very good friend of mine, who has been my friend since school days. He also got into a series of issues just like me simply due to his arrogance and reluctance to change. His problems began in 1994, and the same problems are still with him even in 2022. All that he has been doing for the last twenty eight (28) years is just chewing his problem at a stretch. I have seen many youngsters who chew gum from morning till night as though it offers them a healthy body and a developed brain. Constant chewing will enforce excessive energy on your temporomandibular joints, muscles and teeth which leads to over stress, imbalance, and misalignment. They do not realise that they are just wasting a powerful resource on chewing gum with sweeteners which are not productive at all. Moreover, it utilises the source your mouth, which could be utilised to chew and transfer healthy food to your body.
Just as my friend, I also chewed many problems over and over again until one fine day I realised that I am using the fertiliser I acquire, to grow weed in the jungle. Whereas the same fertiliser could be utilised to cultivate valuable crops that could bring forth an immeasurable harvest to my life. Recently, I called this friend of mine whom I dearly love. I asked him why he is chewing the same old chewing gum for years and years and he answered me with an empty smile. It is indeed very sad to see him, who is also the same age as I am, carrying an empty bag in life which is full of tears, agony and misery.
Many people in today’s world are also similar to that. All they do is keep chewing their problem instead of using that problematic ground to give birth to a tree that will bloom with beautiful flowers. Every problem you face in your life could be converted to an opportunity. Even though drugs wasted some good years of my life, today, I am protecting and inspiring the youth across the world with my story, giving them the opportunity to bounce back whenever they are knocked down by challenges. Those who have failed their primary education have challenged those failures by reinvesting in their future by excelling well in their latter education. People who have failed in their relationships have learnt through those mistakes to improve themselves so that they could build excellent long lasting relationships.
The problem that many face is that they always tend to see the problem and not the solution. There is no point in grumbling over the thorns when you could have enjoyed the beauty of the rose. It is high time for many to recalibrate their minds. Many focus on the stain instead of the value of the blanket. If you focus only on the stain, you will not be able to enjoy the key pleasure the blanket offers which is warmth. Crying over the stain without wrapping yourself around the blanket will only leave you in coldness.
The lives of many are cold and barren as they are addicted to chewing their problems just as the wandering youth chew gum constantly and aimlessly. Time is certainly with no argument one of the greatest resources we attain to make ourselves productive and contributive. If it is used to dip yourself in a bath of bitterness, then you will lack the necessary resources to cultivate in your own garden of life. I use my time very wisely and I do not invest even five minutes at places where people just talk about their problems regarding politicians or mischaracterise others’ lives.
I have a very limited number of friends, maybe three, because I have found that all the others are just chewing their problems whenever they get together over alcohol. There will come a moment that one would find himself surrounded by depressive thoughts and he ain’t got sufficient resources to come back. This is exactly what has happened to my friend, all he obtains is a long chewed problem and a bag full of emptiness at the age of forty five.
Make a strong decision to recalibrate your brain so that you could challenge the challenges and not allow the challenges to keep you stuck in a pit of sorrow and isolation. The good thing about our brain is that it could be trained and developed. Everything I thought of during my youth were always pleasurable including smoking, drugs and prostitution which are now seen by the same brain as useless, unproductive and corruptive. Therefore, do not be disheartened, your brain could always be recalibrated and reprogrammed towards success.
You only need to make a strong decision and an unwavering commitment to be glued to that decision so that you could convert your brain towards victory. You can train your brain to a stage where the same tele drama you once found juicy will now be considered bitter. The same brain of mine which found pornography juicy twenty five years ago now says it is destructive, stinky and useless. The ingredients are in your own basket, the taste of your curry relies on your decisions.
The moment you make a decision to train your brain towards challenging the problems and moving forward, it will not sit calmly and allow you to do it. Just as a dog that attempts to hold tightly on to the bone which he has been chewing, your brain will tell you that it will not surrender to your decision as it is against the way in which it was behaving over a period of time. The moment you try to become a vegetarian your brain would soon throw a massive fit as vegetables have not been defined by your brain as pleasurable food.
Just as you train your dog, you should carry an unwavering commitment until you tame your brain and then reverse its negative thought patterns. For every situation in life there will be a programmed thought pattern which is built inside your brain based on how you have responded in the past. Negative thought patterns could be reversed. Many years ago, the West believed that coconut oil was bad for your health but today the very same West is hungrily craving for virgin coconut oil. Did the coconuts genetically transform over time? Certainly No, the minds of the people transformed the belief they had towards coconut.
How was it transformed? Through continuously feeding accurate information and intelligence to your brain which is so powerful and weighs more than the information and intelligence your brain has been fed regarding coconut oil. If you want to revert a homemade remedy of a village woman, it will be easier to do it by getting a doctor to prescribe something over her medication. Our brain through perception has prioritised who is trustworthy and reliable. Therefore, it is not an impossible task to recalibrate the brain.
Some people have chosen to eat bread with a cup of plain tea merely because of their reluctance to go through the process of correction and development. They are blind to the fact that rice and curry or any other healthy meal is at the end of the process that is far better than consuming plain tea and bread for all three meals. Once a decision is taken you must make sure that the decision is continually refueled with passion and motivation, if not it may try hard to go back to its old format.
Just as my friend, I also chewed many problems over and over again until one fine day I realised that I am using the fertiliser I acquire, to grow weed in the jungle. Whereas the same fertiliser could be utilised to cultivate valuable crops that could bring forth an immeasurable harvest to my life. Recently, I called this friend of mine whom I dearly love. I asked him why he is chewing the same old chewing gum for years and years and he answered me with an empty smile. It is indeed very sad to see him, who is also the same age as I am, carrying an empty bag in life which is full of tears, agony and misery.