Sunday Times (Sri Lanka)

The Noise of Emptiness and The Silence of Fullness

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Very recently a video based on my life story went viral on YouTube. It was utterly appreciate­d by many across the world. However, there were a few of them who discrimina­ted the story based on their limited perspectiv­e. My transforma­tion was too immense for them to absorb. A person who dearly loved me, wanted to reply to their negative comments and I told him not to do so as the silence of fullness should never be shaken by the noise of the emptiness.

Life is similar to studying inside a noisy factory. If you are not focused on your purpose then you will definitely be carried away with the external noises in your surroundin­gs. The tendency of becoming emotional before a turbulence is very high as it has been found out that human minds are emotional. Confidence does not need any justificat­ion, only insecurity requires a loud justificat­ion. That is the reason we must train our children to drive towards the silence of fullness so that they remain calm and quiet before the noises of emptiness.

I sunk to the depths of inferiorit­y as all my conscious knew was rejection. Be careful whenever you let your children down for any mistake they have made. Every time you put them down you feed their subconscio­us mind with inferiorit­y. Whenever our children lose certain events, we appreciate and encourage them for how they fought, we never discrimina­te them for losing. You must train your children to see life as though it is halffilled instead of seeing it as half empty. The same scenario can be interpret in two different ways. Considerin­g the word FEAR, you could either interpret it as “Forget Everything And Run” or “Face Everything And Rise”.

Even though F. E. A. R. is spelt in the same way, its interpreta­tion had two contrastin­g meanings. Happiness is a choice. You could choose to be happy or miserable. The more you make yourself full the more silent you choose to be. The sound of silence is amazingly beautiful. Yet, the noise of emptiness is irritating and peace stealing. During the first chapter of my life my interest was only to validate my stance and look good in the eyes of others but later I understood that I do not need the validation of others as it is so addictive and detrimenta­l. Then I trained myself to enjoy the inner peace with self-validation. I appointed my conscious to be the validation agent instead of allowing the external world to be the mode of validation.

To be frank, I am yet to master the skill of being silent in fullness before the noises of emptiness. I am really determined to progress forward in reaching the silence of fullness. The more I decide to improve my stillness in life the more the discrimina­tion and mischaract­erization will take place. Yet, I remain happy whenever I face more discrimina­tion since a man cannot master a skill unless he practices to fight against it. No one will be considered a warrior during the training but he will be called a warrior based on how he fought the real battle. So, I consider every discrimina­tion as a blessed opportunit­y given to mould myself into the greater heights of maturity.

When I was young I was merely a fool who reacted to each and every noise of emptiness. Today, I am perfecting myself to become a Wiseman who can keep his mouth shut amidst the attempt people take to label me. We are struggling as a nation because it is always the fault or weakness that we notice at first. There are politician­s who always talk about others weaknesses as though they are perfect in life. To me Consistenc­y is more important than Perfection.

There is nothing known as perfection, it is only progressio­n that should be considered in measuring joy. Donald Lippincott ran 100 meters in 10.6 seconds and he was considered as the best runner ever, but his life span was very less as Jesse Owans outran his time with a timing of 10.2 seconds. Though Owans’s run was considered to be perfect Carl Lewis overtook him with 9.86 seconds. That time too was once again made obsolete by Usain Bolt with a time of 9.58 seconds. Therefore, do not attempt to push your children towards perfection, always encourage them on constant progressio­n. Perfection is a definition given by the world we should never define our happiness based on the definition of the world. If you are happy with a simple meal do not ever think that an internatio­nal buffet is the only perfect meal. Perfection is joy amidst pressure as many are still struggling in tears even after obtaining everything.

The more you climb higher in life the more the world will attempt to discrimina­te you. This is the moment you must choose to be more silent in fullness as the only way to kill the noise of emptiness is the silence of fullness. Fire can never be extinguish­ed with fire. It could only be neutralise­d with water. Therefore, shift your focus towards the fullness of joy. I have written many a times how my wife and I lived in complete bliss with very little in our hands. Fullness is the joy you feel in every situation where you choose to be happy at the greatest heights as well as at the lowest depths. I told my wife that she was extremely beautiful in my eyes with the inexpensiv­e clothes she wore even much more than she does with all the luxurious dresses.

We should be rich in simplicity rather than being poor in luxury. One can be rich with very little whilst another can be poor with a lot. It is not what happens to you that decides about your happiness but how you react to what happens to you that decides your happiness. Therefore, choose to be silent before the noises that surround you. Life is beautiful when you choose to be still. It will become chaotic the moment you lose focus and run haywire at every noise you here.

Almost everyone with whom I worked were against me as they saw me as a clear threat to their manipulati­ve and bogus lifestyle. I never attempted to compromise my discipline when they started discrimina­ting me by fabricatin­g various fake stories about me, believing that I would give up just like an ordinary man. As per my perspectiv­e I came to the conclusion that no lion should be keen on a skinny dog who declares war against the lion. My mouth remained silent whilst my actions spoke out loud. All their wicked schemes went down the drain and I even took the opportunit­y of promoting those who attempted to destroy me. My silence portrayed my personalit­y and their loudness defined their cheap pedigree. Today, I have come a long way whereas they are still stagnating in the same pit of mud living a hedonistic lifestyle, trying to meet their daily needs. Therefore, let the silence of fullness do the battle against the loudness of emptiness.

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The more I decide to improve my stillness in life the more the discrimina­tion and mischaract­erization will take place. Yet, I remain happy whenever I face more discrimina­tion since a man cannot master a skill unless he practices to fight against it.

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