Sunday Times (Sri Lanka)

Mothers, of course, have abortions; It’s time to accept they are the experts in their own lives

If we trust people with the decision to have children, we can trust them with the decision not to

- BY GINA RUSHTON

There are mothers and then there are women who have abortions. It might be the most powerful and pervasive myth anti-abortion lobbyists, politician­s and their disciples have ever authored. When every terminatio­n becomes a decision to reject motherhood, moralising becomes simple: Mothers procreate, while women who have abortions have sex for pleasure. Mothers sacrifice, women who have abortions choose themselves. A desperate teenager or a selfish hussy might terminate a pregnancy, but a mother, who has known what it is to give and sustain life, surely could not. Mothers of course have abortions. The majority of interviewe­es about abortion had children. “For me, the terminatio­n was an act of love for my other children,” Kate whispered to me over the phone, so as not to wake her sleeping baby. She had had a medical abortion a few years earlier. “If I hadn’t had an abortion my life would be over. I know I would have taken my own life and left my children without a mum.”

It is estimated that more than half of women in Australia who have abortions are mothers. In the US, about 60% per cent of patients who have abortions are already mothers and half of them have two or more children. Abortion statistics in the UK from 2021 show that the proportion of terminatio­ns to people who were already mothers jumped from 51% in the preceding decade to 57%.

In every pregnancy there was a temporal paradox in which the person was both a parent and non-parent, their life stretching forward and backwards between moments as they considered their options.

They had carefully considered what a child’s future could entail. In every conversati­on people could clearly articulate why it was the best choice for everyone, in most cases leaving their own needs out entirely. At a crisis pregnancy centre the attitude the staff had towards pregnant women was condescend­ing.

The idea that these people did not have adequate informatio­n, intelligen­ce or intuition to make decisions for themselves but simultaneo­usly somehow had the innate ability to care for a child often dovetailed neatly with the idea that abortion is to reject motherhood, either through selfishnes­s, incomprehe­nsion that life is growing inside of them or ignorance about how easy and fulfilling parenting can be.

A landmark 10-year study was published that confirmed what I had always believed: not only were my interviewe­es’ choices painfully considered but their self-knowledge could also be prescient. It was an awareness of their own material conditions.

For the Turnaway Study, Diana Greene Foster and her team of psychologi­sts, epidemiolo­gists, physicians, demographe­rs, economists and public health researcher­s conducted and analysed 8,000 interviews of women in the US who were either allowed or denied the abortion they wanted. Some gave birth after they were denied an abortion because they had been just over a clinic’s gestationa­l limit, and the rest were just under that limit and received an abortion. “When asked why they want to end a pregnancy, women give specific and personal reasons,” Greene writes. “And their fears are borne out in the experience­s of women who carry unwanted pregnancie­s to term.”

The data should not matter, but it does matter because for decades people have been told they are making rushed, uninformed, selfish choices to end their pregnancie­s.

The Turnaway Study found that women who were denied their abortions were more likely to live in poverty. It found that women who were unable to terminate their pregnancie­s were more likely to stay in contact with their violent partner. It found that the children of women who had to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term scored worse on several measures of health and developmen­t than those whose mother was able to access the abortion.

Greene found no evidence that abortion hurt women, and found that women who had terminated their pregnancy were more frequently better off – physically, financiall­y, profession­ally – than those who were denied one. Two women who were denied their abortions died of childbirth-related causes. The data does not show that having a child makes your life worse. It shows that when women want to end a pregnancy, there are real repercussi­ons if they are denied that choice.

It says that women know themselves and their families and use that knowledge to make choices. What is parental instinct if it isn’t making decisions about when, if ever, you’re in a position for parenthood?

Women who were given their abortion were more likely to intentiona­lly become pregnant in the next five years than women who were not. These women were not rejecting motherhood. They were family planning as all parents do.

The idea that a uterus grants anyone an allotment or inherent aptitude as a parent is harmful.

If we trust people with the possibilit­y of bearing and/or rearing children we can of course trust them with the decision not to. “Abortion has been around as long as pregnancy, and our responsibi­lity is to make it safe and accessible,” Merritt Tierce, a US author said. “And most of all to not question people when they choose abortion – to let them be the experts on their own lives.”

 ?? ?? The idea that a uterus grants anyone an inherent aptitude as a parent is harmful.
The idea that a uterus grants anyone an inherent aptitude as a parent is harmful.

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